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    I believe that mum would be a MUCH better mum if she didn't have an eating disorder.
    Going by this logic, would you say the same for mums who suffer from other mental health issues? PND? Depression? Generalised Anxiety Disorder? OCD?

    I suffer from OCD and GAD and I am a bloody fantastic mother thanks. My mental health issues do not make me a bad mother.

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    I believe that mum would be a MUCH better mum if she didn't have an eating disorder.
    Yeah I told myself that for 16 years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    Going by this logic, would you say the same for mums who suffer from other mental healthy issues? PND? Depression? Generalised Anxiety Disorder? OCD?

    I suffer from OCD and GAD and I am a bloody fantastic mother thanks. My mental health issues do not make me a bad mother.

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    Yes I would include other mental health issues.

    I'm not at all saying mums with mental issues are bad mums. Just that they would be better mums if they didn't have those issues. So they might be a 5.5/10 instead of a 4/10. Or a 9/10 instead of a 8/10.

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    100% agree with annabella. Compassion and empathy make a hell of a lot better parent than the absence of mental struggles.

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    I agree, I was looking to get a family member into rehab, the private ones were far too expensive and the public ones had waiting list that went on for years. All of this for a much loved family member who doesn't want to go to rehab in the first place.
    See that is where it's heart breaking and frustrating and infuriating when it's a person you love, when someone is high they don't want to get clean, or they do have these ideas of getting clean but when due for another hit it goes out the window, but you can't force a person into rehab because unless they want to do it they say it won't work but at the same time how can one make a sound decision while in the Grips of there own addiction. Forced cold turkey can work int the short term to get rid of the physical addiction but its terrible to watch its a night mare and is terribly painful for the addict phycilaly and mentally it's mentally torture as well for the ones forcing it, it's In a way false inprisonmeant, but with out then a long rehab program to tackle the mental side of addiction it is generally not overly successful until the person really wants to change there life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes I would include other mental health issues.

    I'm not at all saying mums with mental issues are bad mums. Just that they would be better mums if they didn't have those issues. So they might be a 5.5/10 instead of a 4/10. Or a 9/10 instead of a 8/10.
    I'm glad that you are obviously a perfect mother free from any issues that might impact the way you parent, how else would you be able to make such a sweeping generalised statement about how someone else is as a parent.

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    We'd all be much better mums if we didn't have all the issues that we ALL have. And when I say that, I am most definitely including mothers who bring their children up with a complete lack of empathy for others, and a complete lack of understanding about various issues many people face in life, such as addiction, mental health issues, the need to seek asylum, being a victim of racism, or a victim of many types of trauma etc.

    I think compassion is one of the most important virtues we can teach our kids, and mothers who lack this virtue would be MUCH better mothers if they could learn it.
    I know what youre getting at, the veiled insults are poorly disguised.

    Just because someone can remove emotion from a debate and state what they see as the fact, doesn't mean they lack empathy for others.

    I can't see how a mum with anorexia or bulimia could be setting the best example for a teenage daughter. To think otherwise is living in denial. It doesn't mean the mum isn't a good mum overall or that I don't feel for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes I would include other mental health issues.

    I'm not at all saying mums with mental issues are bad mums. Just that they would be better mums if they didn't have those issues. So they might be a 5.5/10 instead of a 4/10. Or a 9/10 instead of a 8/10.

    Sorry I don't mean to be a b!tch but do you think before you type???!!!

    Some of the things you say are incredicly hurtful to so many people. And who are you to be 'rating' how good a mother women are based on struggles they have faced during their life?

    I really don't want to be mean but please think before you say this crap, it can really affect the way women feel about themselves and their ability to parent!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annabella View Post
    Sorry I don't mean to be a b!tch but do you think before you type???!!!

    Some of the things you say are incredicly hurtful to so many people. And who are you to be 'rating' how good a mother women are based on struggles they have faced during their life?

    I really don't want to be mean but please think before you say this crap, it can really affect the way women feel about themselves and their ability to parent!
    Whoa nelly calm down. Please read posts properly before you get all emotional and start the slippery slide down the personal insult path.

    I am not actually rating mothers. I am not saying mothers with 'issues' are better or worse than mothers without issues. The numbers were thrown in there simply to help demonstrate my point that I think a woman could be a better mother if she didn't have an eating disorder or mental issues. By including the 9/10 rating (pretty darned high on my scale as I never score perfect 10's) I was trying to say that I think a mum who has problems can still be a darned fine mum.

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    Anyone that knowingly harm a unborn baby even though doctors tell you how to stop it.
    And there is the kicker that people are worried about. If a doctor tells you a VBAC is unacceptably dangerous and you choose it anyway, do you get a forced cs or have your baby taken away? Precedence is a big thing in law. If this set of rules apply to this circumstance (e.g. drugs and alchol) then why cant it apply to this circumstance too? See look, we have a doctor here that deems this action too risky. That is the concern.

    Dont know how much people know about the foster care system in Aus and adoption and whatnot, but the large waiting list is due to red tape and bureaucracy, not a lack of children in the system. I believe that if a mother is given the chance and support to recover and is able to, then returning her baby to her is infinately better than that poor child being in the system. The system is appalling and understaffed and pretty terrible overall and I feel badly for any child that enters in it because many are stuck in a system that quite often fails them due to lack of everything.

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