Haven't read other posts but I smoked every day and then fell pregnant with DD1 unplanned. Quit the day I found out until I stopped bfeeding. Went back to smoking when I went back to work but never at home. Couldn't quit when TTC no.2 and even during IVF treatment, could only manage to cut down but not quit. Finally successful IVF cycle and fell pregnant. Quit smoking the day I found out and DD/ is 4 months and no cigs as I'm bfeeding.
Point is that I quit when I am carrying another life. It's hard but i feel i have a responsibility to my unborn child. Can't compare smoking to CC or soft cheese or diets etc - totally different. But mind over matter - when you know you're carrying a precious life and when you truly appreciate what it means to carry another life (those who have had long TTC journeys will know), then I think you can quit at least while pregnant.
That's what I think she should have done but won't go around slagging her as its her life.
Having people pass judgement on me doesnt help the situation, it makes it worse.
But I will always reinforce the dangers of smoking while pregnant, not sugar coat it or compare it to eating a ham sandwich and I would not support her choice to smoke.
If she was my close friend I would make sure she knows what it's doing, not say yeah yeah I know it's wrong, but actually know what every cigarette is doing. It's a hard truth to face and alot of people choose to ignore it because smoking and killing that craving with a smoke feels so darn good. I denied it for 13 years, I know what being a smoker is like and what you're thinking when you're taking a drag. If she really knew and was picturing what it was doing to her baby while she was smoking I KNOW she would butt that shi!t out without skipping a beat.
So whatever, smoke, don't smoke, but I won't support or condone it.
Eek! Sorry about that! Will tidy up when I get home
Someone's Mummy. No, please don't. I am getting a bit tired of the lectures. You stated:
Many women who smoke go on to have completely healthy babies. Of course it's a huge risk that I would ever take (easy for me to say as a non-smoker) but I won't believe for a second that every woman who smoked even very small amounts while pregnant will have greatly unhealthy babies.Do you know what smoking does to a person and unborn child? It is not a minimal risk. Every smoke you have this is what it's doing, no ifs maybes or minute chances.
Im with Benji on these last points....I smoked and my DS is now 8 and has no health problems related to my smoking while pregnant....although he does has 4 ears and a tail.
Also important for everyone to remember that not everyone who smoked during their pregnancy is defending Chrissy. You wont see me standing in her corner.
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