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    Default Feeling so angry!

    I lost my first bub at almost 17 weeks on 27th September 2012... My due date is approaching 3rd March 2013.

    In the last week we've had a friend announce her unplanned pregnancy.
    My partner's younger brother has announced his ex (we think they are back on now) is 5 weeks pregnant. They've known each other approximately 6 weeks. And another friend's almost 2 year old baby has suffered severe abuse at his mother's hands.

    My baby was wanted. Planned. I had bought almost everything. It had taken me a while to conceive as well.

    Tonight I am sitting here absolutely 100% cursing 'god' - the cruel *******, whoever he/she/it is.

    I am jealous, angry, upset, numb, can't think, want to throw things.

    Normally I am a very rational, easy going person... I just can't take this heartache anymore. It's beyond unfair!

    My partner wants me to accept his brother's baby. As he put it, 'the child has done nothing wrong'. All I want to do is slap his brother and tell him he's a drop kick loser who doesn't deserve this child. I am so incredibly angry about it! He is the third father to a fourth child. Him and the missus are both druggies and complete losers.

    Grrr!

    Sorry, any advice on how I can just 'let it go' or calm down or anything. I don't even know

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    Default Feeling so angry!

    Sorry I can't offer advice on how to over come those feelings as I still feel them myself, just wanted to send a vertical hug to you. If you do figure it out please let me know.

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    Default Re: Feeling so angry!

    Lots of hugs.

    I know how you feel, I lost a baby back in may, and not long afterwards I was reading a photography forum and someone posted a photo of his wife "showing" at 8 weeks and talked about how they were telling everyone.

    I was so bitter that I really wanted to post a reply saying she's not showing she's just bloated, the baby is the size of a pea, and telling him to stop telling people because there was still a 25% chance she'd lose it.

    Luckily I didn't reply and kept my bitterness to myself, because I know if I had posted something I would have regretted it later.

    There are a lot of people out there who fall pregnant by accident, and carry a healthy baby to full term, and just as many people who TTC for years and never have any luck. Try not to let it get to you.

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    Default Feeling so angry!

    I'm so sorry I know how you feel. It hurts. It does start to get easier with time.... But I still find as my due dates approach I get angry/upset all over again.

    It's not an easy thing to go through. Have you considered talking to a counsellor or something to help? Sometimes it's nice to talk to someone you don't know and isn't also emotional.

    So sorry for your pain *hugs*

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    Default Feeling so angry!

    Life is just NOT fair sometimes. All you can do is keep breathing and carry on best you can. Sending you hugs

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    I have absolutely no advice or words of wisdom but just wanted to offer you *hugs*.

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    Default Re: Feeling so angry!

    I know exactly how u feel. I miscarried in june last yr and found out in oct my sister was 13 wk pregnant. She never wanted kids ever. She complains constantly. Im 8 wks today but going through a threatened miscarriage ~ life is bloody cruel. I want a baby so much and heres my sister whinging constantly about being pregnant

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    Default Feeling so angry!

    I totally sympathise with you. I have just suffered my fifth miscarriage and am back in the 'hate the world' stage again. All I read/hear about all day is people complaining about how they are sick of being pregnant and over it etc. I too just hold back as much as I can because most of it is innocent banter and people don't always understand how much it hurts us. I am thankful for every smile & kiss my beautiful DD gives me even if she's been fighting sleep all day. You will never hear me say I am sick of her toddler ways or no sleep. Hang in there. It slowly gets easier with time although you will never feel the same x


 

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