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    I am currently 19 weeks pregnant, and at my most recent u/s they have discovered baby is very very sick.
    I have no answers yet, but have been researching what I can and have been trying to prepare myself for the worst.
    There is one thing that has been bugging me that I have to ask, and I am so sorry if it upsets anyone but I do not want to google it.
    What are the options if I get a termination this late? I did have a termination by my own choice just after my daughter was born, and I was put to sleep and woke up and it was all over.
    Is this an option this late? I don't think I would be able to cope giving birth and then having nothing. I feel I will be too traumatised.
    Do drs even give you options on these kinds of things?
    Sorry again if I have upset anyone

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    They should have told you your options after the ultrasound.

    I had very bad news at my 18 week ultrasound when I was carrying twins and was told all options that were available to me, including termination which, is what we decided.

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    I think you need to contact your nearest large women's hospital. I used to work at the Royal Womens in Melb and from memory they terminate under anaesthetic til 24 weeks. Good luck. Will keep you in my thoughts it is such a tough situation

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    And I had to deliver the babies.

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    I gave "birth" at 16 weeks to our baby who had chromosomal abnormalities and was incompatible with life.
    This was on the advice of my Ob and was the right decision for us.
    I am sure you have options, I recommended seeking some counselling to make sure you choose the right one.

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    I also see you are in NSW. You can terminate before 20 weeks, but I'm pretty sure it will have to be done in a hospital. After 20 weeks, you will need to sit before a panel who will decide whether or not to approve your request for termination.

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    I see my ob tomorrow, and I assume I will be referred to a specialist. The person doing the ultrasound told me, and then I got the report myself today.
    Of course if baby can be helped I will not terminate, I am just trying to get my head around everything at the moment.

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    What is wrong with the baby?

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    Her liver is very enlarged, she has fluid around her heart and in her abdomen and fluid under her skin around her body.
    Everything else was good, so I am hoping with all my heart that something can be done.

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    I'm surprise this wasn't all discussed with you already. I'm so sorry your going through this. Your OB should be able to give you much more information tomorrow.

    Can I ask what's wrong with your bub?


 

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