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    DS (7) has expressed interest in going into the school swimming carnival. He knows how to swim, can do basic freestyle but I think will struggle with 50m. Thing is, I don't want to discourage him for trying, but I know he'll struggle. I'm going to take him to a 50m pool so he can "practice" and also sign up for some casual lessons but I doubt he'll have much progression in 2 weeks before the swimming carnival.

    I'm not sure if you'd describe him as competitive or just wanting to impress, but he cried in Kindy and in Yr 1 when he didn't get an award. Both times we had the "I just want you to try your best and be happy" blah blah blah chats. So, this might be a good opporunity to reconfirm that or it could just be another fail to him.

    So, I'm left with this question. Do I discourage him from doing it- point out that it's a big swim and there might be other kids that have been doing swimming lessons for a long time. Or do I let him go, and catch him when he falls with a shoulder to cry on and an awesome lunch because I'm proud of him for giving it a go.

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    Id let him do it

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    Let him do it And praise him for giving it his all, wether he comes last or not

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    Let him do it and praise him for doing his best no matter the outcome

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    I'd let him do it. But get as much practice as you can in before then.
    I've seen many kids struggle to make the 50 metres, but they (almost) always make it there eventually and get a big cheer when they do.

    Not my kids though, they refuse to go in the races. I wish that they had the courage and confidence to just try it and do their best.

    Good luck to your little one!

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    Let him do it, I was similar to your son, I could swim, but definitely wasn't a racer or competitive swimmer. I still use to go in the 50m races and would usually come last or second last, but I knew I was never going to win and just wanted to do it for fun. I'm can't remember now whether my parents had spoken to me about that though for me to have that mindset or whether its just something I learned myself.

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    Let him do it, swimming 50m is an achievement itself!

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    Let him try! Plenty of kids that age give it a go and struggle, it is all part of learning. I used to love going in races, the fact that I am not blessed with speed and usually came last never phased me.


 

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