Hi ladies, so i have been doing placement for my uni course one day a week since november and DS (almost 2 years) has been hanging out with his much loved nanny one day a week while she took time of to be a carer for my nan who has since passed. His nans back at work now so we had to put DS into childcare for one day a week. He had orientation a couple of weeks ago and was very distraught, he cried for the full half hour i was gone. When I came back he seemed to cheer up and we sat together with the other kids and ate lunch etc.
I made a huge deal about it and told him it would be so much fun, about all the songs and toys and kids, yummy food, when id be back and what we'd do after it.
This week was his first near full day. Since then he has been a different kid. Apparently he cried on and off the entire time, wouldnt play with any other kids, didnt eat, wouldnt have water, wouldnt go to sleep. Also Im fairly certain they didnt put sunscreen on him despite being outside all morning and they didnt offer him any milk like i asked either. The other thing that annoyed me was that im not 100% sure they changed his nappy while I was gone either OH AND the room leader came up after the first girl told me he had cried on and off all day and told me a very different story she said he was fine as soon as you left, you can tell he hasnt been crying otherwise he'd have those big red puffy eyes....not sure why u felt the need to lie to me, if he cried he cried (sorry for the mini vent, im just concerned it may be like this all the time).
What im really concerned about is that he is beyond clingy. He gets upset if i leave the room, wouldnt even have a shower with his dad (who he is very close with) not even while i stood in the bathroom with them, he pretty much cried all night even with me there and trying to get him to sleep seems out of the question. We've gone from 22 months of waking up multiple times a night to 2 months of only waking maybe once a week (even with 2 y.o molars popping through) and now back to him waking mutliple times and wanting to hold my hand while he sleeps. I've been trying to be loving and cuddly without going back too much on what we did to finally get him to the point of sleep where i could leave the room easily without him crying before drifting off to sleep. Unfortunately, he has started climbing out of his cot since childcare and landed on his head a couple of times, (were planning to take the side off tonight) so i dont want to just leave him and i know the next couple of weeks are going to suck because of all these changes. Ive sat and talked with him about it a few times but im not sure what else to do. i just feel lost, like all our hard work is unravelling, until the last two months my relationship was on the rocks, i was depressed, anxiety issues, went through a miscarriage and now being 6 months pregnant i dont want to go back to it all.
Has anyone been through this, is there any advice i can get. He's not a security item kind of kid, ive tried and tried over and over again but it just dont work. Please be kind im kind of fragile at the moment!