Do you mean just day care or preschool as well?
My kids never went to day care but now that ds1 is 3 I have enrolled him into preschool, just 1 day a week.
I know he wouldn't have liked to be away from me if he went into care earlier than this age, but now I feel he needs something a bit more stimulating. Plus I think it's good for him to hang out with other kids as well as learn he has to listen and take direction from other adults.
I never went to daycare or preschool so I don't think you have to send him, but I do remember being extremely shy and clingy to my mum wen I was in kindy/prep. My thought is that I probably didn't know how to interact with other kids. But I'm fine now so big deal really!
DD has never been in daycare and was fine when she started kindy, in fact she is very confident and happy at kindy. I did still social her in other ways (playgroup, play dates etc).
As a child I never went to daycare and was fine in school and am now a quite socially capable adult, my dd's don't go to daycare either. People keep telling me that a day a week will help then adjust to school. I have enrolled dd1 in a 3 year old program which is 2hrs a week but waiting to hear. But this isnt entire day or week program, I also organise plenty of play dates and outings with friends the same age.
This works for us, financially we are fine. We don't need my income. So I am taking advantage of spending as much time with them whilst they are young.
Nope dd has never been in child care and never will.
Kids do not 'need' it as a pp said there are many ways of socialization.
I'm not so sure about Australian research, but most British research suggests that group daycare/childcare doesn't have any long-term benefits for children under 3.
That is... when kids start school, their ability to cope with formal education and being away from their parents etc. doesn't seem to be affected by whether they were in childcare that young. When they're older though, it does make a difference. Obviously that's on average though.
Personally I think you've got to weigh up what's best for your family. If you'd prefer he didn't go then I don't think you should feel guilty... he's getting plenty of quality care from being with you.
My ds didn't go into childcare til he was 3 and then only 2 days a week. It was 100% necessary for our situation at the time, but he hated it and so did we. From my reading of research if you can delay childcare until the age of 3 kids usually do better. For socialisation there are playgroups (my ds started going at 18 months), music groups, gym classes for little kids, etc. My dd doesn't go to childcare, but goes to playgroup, swimming and creche at church, all once a week.
This thread is really reassuring, thanks for starting it OP.
My DS is 27 months and has never been in daycare. People have commented on that like I'm doing him some great injustice by not sending him and I just don't really get it. I have nothing against people using daycare whatsoever but I feel fortunate that I am in a position where I can be home with him most of the time instead of sending him off to daycare. He has been left with a babysitter many times and has been totally fine, no tears whatsoever so I know he can cope okay without me around. He also has plenty of opportunities to socialize with playgroup, play dates, library and music classes.
My Dd hated day care, kindy whatever you want to call it. She would scream and cry and spend the whole time completely distressed. I ended up pulling her out and keeping her home. I tried three times over the course of 5 years but she wouldn't settle. She is in year 2 now and excels at school. Very social, very very bright and thrives. She clearly didn't suffer from no kindy. My second dd however loves preschool. She starts prep next year but has been in kindy for two years and loves it, she likes to get out and play and be social. She needs those two days a week. I believe now that parents know their child. If your child doesn't like kindy don't send them. Why have extra stress? That's if you can stay home with them of course. If you have that option.
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