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    Please does anyone know of any support groups or even a counsellor that is experienced in miscarriage support?

    I've had 3 now - and I think I'm starting to drown. I just need to speak with people who understand!!! or can offer some real sympathy/empathy. I don't know if how I feel is okay or what is normal.

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    Hi first of all I'm sooo sorry for all your losses.. Heart breaking is an under statement !!
    I recently lost a baby at 20wks last November.. (Also had 2 mc, & 1 ectopic, so lost 4 babies in total, but also have 2 chldn)I went and attended a sands support group in new farm. It was ok.. I havnt been back.. Just a few different reasons.. I think you can call & chat to them over the phone or meet them in person .. They also have books if your into that, that you can read.. Just look up the sands website for brisbane .. I think the SIDS in Mt Gravatte also has a support group but think that's a Facebook group . I went saw my gp continuously for a few weeks then we discussed me going on a mental health plan to see a psych. I'm also on antidepressants which has Helped !!!! All I seemed to find was forum support groups.. I'm on the northside of brisbane, if I can be of any help just ask..

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    Hello Gracec,

    Thankyou very much for your reply. I am very sorry for your losses - my heart goes out to you... How are you feeling today?

    I'm finding it very frustrating that there really isn't much support for those of us going through this heartbreaking pain!!! I am so surprised, given how many women go through this, that there isn't and that no one talks about it. I've realised that it is almost taboo to talk about!!! What the??? I think part of it (the most part) is that it makes others uncomfortable. But it just isn't fair that we then have to suffer in silence (this may only be my experiences but I assume other women will feel like this also).

    It is such a traumatic and saddening thing to go through - us women really need to bring it to the fore. I'd really like to see active support groups and Dr's and hospitals should refer women routinely.

    I think my hardship at the moment is that I'm not getting any real understanding or anyone to relate to. No one in my life, family or friends, have been through this. I can't help how I feel but it seems like people just expect me to be over it by now or something? We only lost our last little boy last month for gods sake!

    Thank you for your info on the group you tried. Sounds like maybe you didn't find it very helpful though? I think it would just help to meet with and speak to other women who have or who are also going through the same situations like a mothers group so to speak.

    I'm also on the northside of Bris. Which hospital was your babe born at? Have you found them helpful? I'm going through the RBWH and had my first appointment with the early pregnancy review clinic last week.

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    Hi OneLove- I'm not in Brisbane but couldn't not say anything. Fairly certain we all feel the same as you! How taboo it is, lack of support, etc. I lost my baby girl at 20 weeks Dec. 5th. I see your loss was Dec. 6th. How many weeks were you? It is definitely FAR too fresh to be 'over'. And quite honestly I don't think you ever get over it, you just slowly learn to cope. Now that you've had three losses are they investigating into the reasons why this is happening to you? Hopefully you get some answers.

    I am part of Facebook group that is super helpful, the girls are amazing and always around for validation, venting, advise, etc. PM me if you want me to get you added to the group. I found the books helpful, (reading others stories) and I fortunately have a really good therapist helping me through. I think that is key, hopefully your GP can get you onto one.

    Grace-I'm sorry I haven't updated our other post! I've been pretty overwhelmed with Clementine's results and figuring things out, finally got a few more answers today, which is a relief, kind of-if there is relief to this! I'll try to update soon, I just haven't been up for writing it all down.

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    Hi ..
    I was also looking for face to face support group but all I found was the sands one.. On their website they have meet ups.. Yeah kinda like mothers group, I went on my own which was fine .. There were only 3 coupes, and each took it in turns sharing our experience, then a brief ask each other questions.. Just didn't really feel like I got anything out of it.. Maybe cause I'd only been there once & didn't get a chance to bond with any of the other ladies.. But from what we spoke about a lot of support groups are online due to a number a different reasons.. My pregnancies were achieved with ivf.. I managed to find a face to face support group but numbers have dwindled over the years in people attending the coffee & chats ..
    I know a few people who have had MC & they still have their anger & sadness ... It never really leaves you even once you've had children..with ivf I found the 2 went hand in hand unfortunately .. I went to north west hospital at Everton Park.. Shall I say it was a terrible experience sooo many miscommunications !!!!! But I will also say I have had previous excellent experiences there !!!

    I'm coming up to to due date in march ..I still have my up's. & down's .. Wonder how big my belly .. Wld .. Shld have been .. I also think how strange it wld be to be pregnant .. I cry & think geez I never thougt I wld bury a baby in my life . ( well yet to bury the ashes )
    Yes I think it's taboo but once people started finding out they told me of their mc.. Or about this person or that persons story .. Didn't really makes feel any better though...
    The cord was wrapped tightly around my baby's neck but I also asked for chromosome testing.. I havnt been back to see my FS/obs but I think I need to have a chat for closure.. We are no longer ttc on extending our family.. Cannot mentally ...financially ..emotionally!!! We have 2 daughters .. I'm still coming to terms with being a family of 4... Please I AM Forever Greatfull for my family of 4!!!! But we had passed the safe stage !! Everything was going well.. We were becoming a family of 5 ... My near 7yo took it pretty hard and still cries, she wants our baby back.. i feel sad and guilty that i couldn't give her another sibling. Sorry i know your also going through the same shock, sadness, why why why's .., Glad to hear they are investigating your mc.. How far along were you when u lost your boy?? Did u get a info pack/ best when u left the hospital ?? Did they offer counseling ?? I'm happy to meet up & chat ?? I'm no weirdo, just a working mum living in Albany Creek..

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    Hello Kirst33, I hope you are feeling okay today. I am very sorry for the loss of your little girl. I hope you get the answers you need.

    I had some testing done after my second loss which all seemed ok. Last week I had blood drawn and a few other test and I'm now waiting for the results. Our little boys results came back fine... heartbreaking. I'm sure you understand though.

    Thank you for your offer to help me join the Facebook group.

    GraceC - I go through the same things, thinking about each of our baby's due dates and it is hard when the anniversary of their births roll around too.

    HOw are your plans for the service for your little one? (What name did you chose for your little one? sorry if that is too personal I just thought it would be nice if I used babys name) I'm so sorry your daughter if struggling - it must be so hard to see her upset. My little boy was very excited too and I feel so so sad I have not been able to give hime a sibling. He wanted a brother so bad. He took it very well though. I am also so very grateful for what I do have, but it still doesn't take away the pain, does it

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    Hi, OneLove. this will pretty much be a cut & past reply ..
    I was 20wks gestation but baby was the size of a 15wk old. I gave birth on 2 nd nov..

    We had a simple service for our baby John Robert in November 2012. We had the priest from ellys school come and bless him, say a pray and a few small words.. We listened to some lovely music that Robert & I chose.. It was a very emotionally tough day for us all.. But the service was very simple but exactly what we wanted. Johns coffin was surrounded many trinkets that we could think of... Wooden car and boat.. He has wooden blocks and i even gave john some of the timber that he wld of used to help robert finish building the deck ceiling elly drew sooo many pictures wrote lovely letters to him.. we then each gave john red & white roses...
    John will be cremated and live in Albany Creek crematorium.. We will add an angel pendant and 2 angel ornaments ... I know I'll get through this ... But I also know it will take me a looooooong time ... I never expected things to end this way..
    It's completely devastating when they don't find anything with our lost babies... It's soooo bitter sweet. With my 2 MC, both at 8wks they only found that one of the babies had an extra chromosome, can't remember which one it was though.. No finding with the other mc or my ectopic
    I completely sympathies with you regarding to trying give ur son a sibling .. I remember quiet clearly Elly at Mayb 2/ 3 saying ... "I want to get a baby & put it in ur tummy mummy" geez I cried that night.. I still cry knowing that I can't give her another sibling .. I've tried allll I can .. Sometimes it's just not enough !!! Are u seeing fertility people at the hospital or other specialist people ?? Have ur family been supportive for you ?? How far along were you when you lost your boy.. Not that loosing a baby early or later is harder.. Our hopes .. Dreams .. Excitment is alll the same .. Think I'll be sad for a long time that we are at the end of our journey!! Have to try n change my thinking around and enjoy the family I have !!!!

    Kirst... Thinking of you ... Sending you hugs.. We are here if you need support otherwise I hope the Facebook group is supporting you xxxx


 

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