please help! i think i have a 'western world' problem with breastfeeding in public/when im not in my own home!!
i dont know why or what it is but i just cant feed my 4 week old when im not home. Ive never been the type to feel comfortable feeding in public. I just freeze up and become all self conscious.
We were at a family gathering over the weekend at a park and ds needed a feed so i sat in a chair out of everyones way mainly to give myself a little privacy and it was just awkward. ds wouldnt attatch or stay on, it took 45mins and he was still hungry. After the crappy feed, I gave him to a family member for a cuddle and she looked at him, then asked me "is he usually this awake after a big feed like that?" ... and it just confirmed i hadnt given him enough even tho it took 45 mins as it took ages to settle him after the feed which never happens at home 30mins later he was smacking his lips for another feed arghhh. i never feel the let down when im out, ds just seems to suckle and suckle then get tired and lose the attachment/give up!
I dont know what i can do to overcome my anxiety when i have to feed in public. I do it descretely but mainly for myself. I also have this thought that im on the clock and thoughts of "she just spent the whole time feeding" when im at a social event/friends house ect. It takes longer because im so uncomfortable and i guess the milk just doesnt flow?
anyone give me some relaxing ideas for feeding in public? is this even normal to feel this way about feeding in public?
when we get home from being out, he watns to feed every hour and nights are awful with him waking every 2-3hrs to make up for the pathetic day feeds.
At home our feeds are 10mins each side sometimes less, he falls asleep when he's done and sleeps anywhere from 1-4hrs between feeds.
Please help! i want to be a confident feeder when im out!