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    Hi , it just occurred to me ( honestly) that after 3 babies I do fall into the Catergory of attachment parent . All of mine have been breast fed until they self wean, carried in ergo,co - slept until 14 months ( just seemed to be when they had had enough) , I never could cope with crying so they get picked up or soothed ..... Anyway , I really never thought of myself as an attachment parent .......... I am just a parent.

    Do you call yourself a type of parent? Do you think labeling yourself as a certain type of parent alienates you from other parents? I don't really ask what other parents do but then I'm not part of and never have bee involved in a mums group.

    Just interested what you would call yourself .

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    I don't label myself IRL it just really never comes up, I'm the only AP parent in my little kindy mummies group and it doesn't really play a factor we all just do what works for us. I do find online that it alienates some people, I guess some people assume that if your AP you don't support other parenting methods which is untrue for me.

    I have also found that IRL when people ask me parenting questions like how long did you breastfeed for/where did you have DD my answer can alienate them or it opens up doors for them to comment or laugh at my choices and to say why they wouldn't work for them, I don't particularly care what anyone else does and I don't really talk about my parenting choices IRL unless asked for this reason.

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    I have parented my children in a manner that aligns with the philosophy of AP, however I no longer call myself an Attachment Parent. I got sick and tired of people saying things like "Oh you can't be AP because you didn't xyz"...kind of misses the point. I suppose you could say the more hardcore/militant AP'ers turned me off.

    I parent the Witwicky way

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    The only label I give myself is "mum" lol :P
    I didn't even know about different types of parenting before joining bubhub and really don't think there is any use of giving yourself a label unless you are looking for similar parents to talk with.
    In saying that though these labels should be flexible and people shouldn't feel they have to fit in a box.

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    I do a lot of AP things too but Ivm sure like someone said Im not an AP because XYZ. I'm just mummy also



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    I don't label myself. I don't think I particularly fall into any specific category anyway. Some things I do are AP, but some things are totally not! We do what works for us at the time, not from what a specific type of parenting style tells me I should do

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    I was just thinking about this. I stopped bf at 5 weeks for numerous reasons. Yet I babywear, feed/cuddle to sleep, and co-sleep. I also pick my son up as soon as he cries and have vowed never to CC. I would consider my parenting philosophy more Ap than some bf mums I know that started CC at 6 months.

    But then every so often I feel a bit smothered and need time to myself...so I don't know! I'm just parenting by instinct and what makes sense to me

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    I fit into no particular parenting style or label.

    I, like most mums, just do what I think is best for my child.

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    I think this is a bit like the feminist label, people seem confused about what being an AP parent is, it's about responding to your babies needs and cues. Not saying that people need to label themselves just something I have noticed on a few threads lately, people saying I'm don't feel AP because I don't xyz ie breastfeed.

    Darla most AP parents feel that way sometimes, it's natural

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    I don't like labels TBH.

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