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    Default Anyone else gone into this thinking "I just might not conceive this time"?

    Hoping someone else has these semi morbid thoughts.

    With DS it took just over a year to conceive him. I ovulate fine, DH's sperm was fine. we bd'd when we were meant to, ate right, took the vitamins, kept fit all of that.. We just took time falling pregnant.

    Now I am 35 soon to be 36, less sleep (due to ds), less fit and a bit overweight.

    Whilst in the first month i got kinda excited, the next two cycles I have been a bit blah, more concerned about ovulating than falling pregnant. Then it hit me this morning "I am not sure I think I will get pregnant again". Is this why I am not so surprised when I look at my BFns? Is this why I have lost interest in my ttc diary as well? To be honest I don't even feel hopeful. I don't feel sad or desperate about it (okay maybe a little wistful but not depressed) just don't think it is going to happen.

    Hoping it is just a coping mechanism and not some kind of prophetic emotion. Anyone else go through this?

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    it happens sooner rather than later

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hokey Pokey View Post
    it happens sooner rather than later
    omg Hokey completely OT but how does your DS cope with all those sisters? Is he the youngest? My ds has four older girls cousins, two dote on him two tease him without mercy.

    thanks for your wishes. I am okay if it takes a wee while if it happens. I just have been musing today that It just may not happen at all. Kinda weird. There are others in my life ttcing and I keep thinking I hope if only one of us can fall I hope it is her.

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    I am in your situation almost exactly. It took us about 7 months to fall with DS and this time around it is almost a year and still counting. Same deal - I ovulate fine and DH swimmers are more than fine. I am 5kgs heavier now than when I fell the first time around and am a little bit overweight, but not to the point that it should be affecting my fertility (especially since I ovulate fine).

    At first I thought it was going to happen, but after about 4 months I now just start feeling like it isn't. The only difference is that I still desperately want it and feel really sad about it. Each month I am fully expecting to get BFN's though and do. It sucks.

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    mumsical. It sucks. I am lucky enough not to have chems like you have. they are just cruel.

    I am also only 5-10kg (depending on time of month!) heavier than with ttc ds so shouldn't effect it. Just wish I knew what stopped us falling or if we just aren't destined to have a second

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    Quote Originally Posted by upforroundtwo View Post
    omg Hokey completely OT but how does your DS cope with all those sisters? Is he the youngest? My ds has four older girls cousins, two dote on him two tease him without mercy.

    thanks for your wishes. I am okay if it takes a wee while if it happens. I just have been musing today that It just may not happen at all. Kinda weird. There are others in my life ttcing and I keep thinking I hope if only one of us can fall I hope it is her.
    He is only almost 5 months old lol so far he LOVES all the attention they are giving him

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    Default Anyone else gone into this thinking "I just might not conceive this time"?

    This is me right now. I would never admit it IRL but I just don't think it's going to happen. I do get mad at my BFNs but last cycle I didn't even cry in the shower after it arrived!!!

    I'm still TTC from May 2012...thanks for writing this OP! Xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chillies View Post
    This is me right now. I would never admit it IRL but I just don't think it's going to happen. I do get mad at my BFNs but last cycle I didn't even cry in the shower after it arrived!!!

    I'm still TTC from May 2012...thanks for writing this OP! Xx
    it is hard isn't it Chillies? I hope and am sure we are wrong but I do take comfort in the fact I am not the only one who feels this way.

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    Default Anyone else gone into this thinking "I just might not conceive this time"?

    Quote Originally Posted by upforroundtwo View Post
    it is hard isn't it Chillies? I hope and am sure we are wrong but I do take comfort in the fact I am not the only one who feels this way.
    Hardest thing I've done coz u can do everything to make it happen, yet it still doesn't-n there's nothin u can do but dust the knees off n try again! The timing drives me insane-when I wasn't TTC, AF seemed to come round sooooo quick n now the cycle draaaaags on
    I'm sure we're wrong too but it's not a bad thing to vent along the way...hugs x

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    I keep telling DH #4 will be hard. Its just a feeling i keep getting. Why i would think that considering my other 3 kids were concieved after 2 months and the third was a surprise. Its just a feeling i get, but i try to not let it get me down. Myabe its the fact that my first cycle was so so long and no real reason for it, I just dont think i O'ed. Great Big HUGS and lots of baby dust for you, me and everyone else


 

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