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    Default What is your relationship like with your other half?

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    I have , a few times. His reason is...he doesn't like texting. I get that, but....he's not doing it for him, it's for me. One every couple days will totally make me feel special knowing he's thinking about me. I don't like gardening or watering but if it's something I know he likes to have done I do it. Ugh, I feel so needy.
    No no no I used to get that from dp too!! It just doesn't sink in for a long while that it means something to you! It also depends on how you say it to whether it will sink in quicker. I found dp remembers a lot more when I throw in a couple compliments and a big cuddle rather than when I get frustrated and say it bluntly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by αληθη View Post
    No no no I used to get that from dp too!! It just doesn't sink in for a long while that it means something to you! It also depends on how you say it to whether it will sink in quicker. I found dp remembers a lot more when I throw in a couple compliments and a big cuddle rather than when I get frustrated and say it bluntly.
    So so true, all in the delivery

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    Even though he isn't texting or calling, is he showing his love in other ways? Even if you call him, is he happy to hear from you?

    A few people have spoken in other threads about a book called Love Languages or similar. It talks about the different ways people in relationships show their love - some are affectionate, some are verbal, some do things for their partner etc. Is he showing you in ways that you are not seeing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    Even though he isn't texting or calling, is he showing his love in other ways? Even if you call him, is he happy to hear from you?

    A few people have spoken in other threads about a book called Love Languages or similar. It talks about the different ways people in relationships show their love - some are affectionate, some are verbal, some do things for their partner etc. Is he showing you in ways that you are not seeing?
    I love that book, and have read it. Took dh 3 years, then someone suggested I get him the audio book. And he listened to it and we discussed it. mine is mainly acts of service. Having him do something tedious like hang out the wash means the absolute world to me. It took aaaaages to explain that to him because he does not see any sense in how I feel mor eloved if he does a job. His is words of affirmation and I try and say at least one uplifting affirming sentence every day to him

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    We dont call or text during the day unless its for something important. If one of us is out at night we text when we arrive and when we are leaving for home but that's about it. I know he thinks about me during the day and that's enough for me.

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    My partner works away on a 9:5 roster we talk every night and he will txt a quick reply during the day if he can, he is not meant to use phone on shift though so its always short and sweet. He isn't a big over the phone communicator so in the evenings it's mainly me chatting away with him making comments but when he comes home he is always filled with crazy/interesting patient stories he just says he switches off when he has finished work he is introverted and at the end of the day he just needs to chill out quietly.

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    Default What is your relationship like with your other half?

    I forgot to say when he is home and one of us is out he is great with texting and will always reply.

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    Well I'm a bad example but me and dh talk at least 2 times a day and text most days, silly things or I send him pics of the kids if I've taken cool shots. We've talked on the phone every day since the beginning (15yrs now) so we're used to it.
    Oh and he doesn't work away, we're together everyday but keeping in contact during the day is just something we do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Someones Mummy View Post
    Well I'm a bad example but me and dh talk at least 2 times a day and text most days, silly things or I send him pics of the kids if I've taken cool shots. We've talked on the phone every day since the beginning (15yrs now) so we're used to it.
    Oh and he doesn't work away, we're together everyday but keeping in contact during the day is just something we do.
    that's so sweet

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    Default What is your relationship like with your other half?

    We never talk or text during the day...we're at work or on weekends we are playing sport or with friends etc. I'd feel weird contacting him during the day unless something major happened.

    But even when one of us is away we don't talk every day. No big deal for us, i work away all the time so maybe we are just used to it? When I'm away we usually have a prearranged day or something when I will call, like 'I'll speak to you on xx night when I fly into xx'

    My DH is a bit anti-mobile, (he still uses a Nokia 3410!!) so it's probably not surprising that he isn't that 'into' text etc

    But I know my sis talks to her DH a few times a day and both of them just work normal jobs so they're home together every night, that works for them.

    Don't read too much into it, I think the responses to this thread show there is a whole range of levels of contact that are 'normal' and work for different people.


 

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