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    Default DS is having major sleep issues

    He use to sleep 7-6/6:30 and day sleep used to be 1/1:30-2:30/3

    Lately he's falling asleep round 8pm, waking round 2:30/3:30am and again at 4:30/5:30am

    Day sleeps have been anywhere between 11:30-1:30 and usually only for 1.5 hours

    My DH is a very hands on dad. He does a LOT. He has always got up in the night, he baths DS every night, he changed DS's nappy, feeds him, plays with him, is affectionate to him, dresses him - you name it, DH does it. Never whingey about it either.

    It's just that he has no patience to sit with DS while he falls asleep and he has preconceived ideas of how things 'should' be (according to others I.e - our stupid doctor, media, family, friends etc) he's stuck in his ways and he's almost TOO hands on when it comes to the sleeping thing coz he interferes with what comes naturally to me. He tries to help but it's not helping. But after many discussions over the past few days I think he's realized that and has backed off a bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    I'd be telling hubby to suck it up IMO everyone getting a good nights sleep is more important than whatever possessive insecurity he has!

    I know that sounds harsh but I find the father expecting the child to sleep alone so he can sleep with his wife totally possessive, and the act that he doesn't help? Maybe he could lend a hand!

    I hope someone else has a magical answer for you
    Perfectly said!!!!

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    My DS has been sleeping worse overnight for the past few weeks, when he used to be perfect. He's nearly 17mths old.

    I've just discovered that he really has to be awake by 2.30pm at the latest, in order to go to bed at 7pm. So maybe you could try this too?

    I've also noticed he has 2 molars that have come through, with no other symptoms. So perhaps the first few nights they were giving him grief, and now he's in a bad pattern of waking? Don't really know!

    I'm fortunate that he isn't taking long to go back to sleep. I give him a quick cuddle and he goes straight back down. But this is annoying though too as I have to go all the way upstairs at 33wks pregnant 1-3 times a night. I kind of wish there was more of a valid reason to be getting up!

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    I'd be telling hubby to suck it up IMO everyone getting a good nights sleep is more important than whatever possessive insecurity he has!

    I know that sounds harsh but I find the father expecting the child to sleep alone so he can sleep with his wife totally possessive, and the act that he doesn't help? Maybe he could lend a hand!

    I hope someone else has a magical answer for you
    I know you ate probably trying to be helpful and supportive in this post but honestly it hasn't helped. I do find it a bit harsh in my emotional tired state.

    DH helps a lot with DS. Unfortunately he just doesn't have the patience for the settling part at sleep time. He's a great dad and husband. Every relationship has its 'trying' times am I guess we r just going through one of those right now

    I never said he didn't help...

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    I never said he didn't help...
    No that's true you never said he didn't help sorry if I upset you by making assumptions

    I do hope you can find an answer that suits your whole family

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    No that's true you never said he didn't help sorry if I upset you by making assumptions

    I do hope you can find an answer that suits your whole family
    Thanks I hope so too

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    I could have written your post. It takes us about 90mins every night to get home to sleep. Can you bring his one sleep to around 11 and only 1 hours max?

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    OP I know it doesn't help you but I'm having the same exact issue. DS used to be an excellent sleeper - 6 months ago he was in bed at 6.40-7 til 6-ish am but now I'm lucky if he's asleep by 9.30! I've kept his routine the same but he did go into a big bed... Plus daylight savings... Plus the heat (DS feels the heat a lot like I did as a child).

    It's just insane and I'm so upset that this has happened. I don't get a break from dawn til dusk apart from his day nap and even then I have to take him for a drive to get him to sleep. He is rubbing his eyes and is clearly tired but can't put himself to sleep anymore.

    I'm exhausted! It's ruining my life in a way. I'm just at a loss as to what is going on with him. I sincerely hope you solve this problem soon and please post back here if you do! X

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilypily View Post
    I could have written your post. It takes us about 90mins every night to get home to sleep. Can you bring his one sleep to around 11 and only 1 hours max?
    I can try that tomorrow. I don't know if it will work though

    How long did this go on for for you? It's been 2 weeks for us, possibly 3, except the first week I wasn't aware as I ha to sleep next to him while we were overseas so he slept fine, but if we were home it probably would have started then already

    I read online that it could be coz he's about to talk (he's doing so much more babble lately) and lots more simple words.

    Or I've read it is just the age.

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    Sometimes we do just have to accept the stage they are at and not fight against it ... it just makes something that is already exhausting, unbearable.

    DD is now 28 months old and after much time, she is finally starting to sleep and settle better. For us it took getting rid of the day sleep altogether!

    It can still take an hour to settle her but "normally" she now sleeps through and wakes somewhere between 7-8. Settling is now me laying on the bed with her, having a chat for about 20 minutes and then gentle music goes on and we lay and listen to it until she goes to sleep....normally she is asleep by 8 and we try and be in her room by 6.30pm.

    I think the most important thing at the moment is for you and your DH to give each other a hug, agree that this stage is really hard and be there for each other. If you are settling bubs, DH can cook dinner or do the house tidy so when you come out you can have time together to relax. Stop fighting each other for something that is not either of your faults and just collapse together and do what is needed until this stage passes.

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