Yesterday my DH got a call from his father informing him that a work mate of 5 years had passed away suddenly (DH and FIL work together). I have never met this man and DH does not see him socially but they worked together in close proximity over the last 5 years.
After the phone call, DH spoke to me about it and when I told him I was sorry to hear that he said he thought his dad was surprised with DH's lack of reaction. He asked me was it weird that he felt almost nothing.
I thought it was a bit 'weird' to be honest but would never tell DH that as I know everybody reacts differently, but DH continued asking me and explained that he felt bad for his wife because they probably had no insurance and she does not work. Otherwise, he felt nothing emotionally.
A colleague of mine passed away two years ago and I was devastated. I couldn't imagine not feeling upset about it. DH grew up on a farm and was taught from a young age to hunt/skin animals. His 'pets' were the cows that the family would later eat. He also recalls his father 'disposing' of stray cats
Is it possible that DH has been de-sensitised by these things? I really worry that he might be affected by his childhood experiences, far more than he lets on.