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    Default Article in Daily Life re an obese 7 year old

    I agree the mum is an idiot.

    She rates herself as being some mothering weight loss guru but if she was all that her kid wouldn't have become overweight to start with.

    What type of mum puts her kids weight loss struggles in the public area? An attention seeking show pony, that's who. What kids wants every Tom **** and Harry to know her personal struggles?

    This diet and publicity, combined with the mums own food phobias she is projecting on her child... Well lets just say the poor kid is doomed.

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    Perfect way to begin an eating disorder imo ... I feel so sorry for the little girl... If it were my family i would not include scales, measuring, red light foods or public humiliation... Subtly change our meals or snacks at home, start planning family bushwalking or day at the pool or a new sport, maybe read a childrens book on growing healthy bones and muscles etc... But the way they have approached this just makes me so upset...shes only 8

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    I was rather uncomfortable with this article too. I was slightly chubby when I was a kid. I was not obese, but I was borderline overweight. It was not due to overeating or lack of exercise- I was, and still am a reasonably healthy eater and I have always been very sporty. Some kids just seem to go through a "chubby phase", it is pretty common for kids on my mother's side. Both of my parents recognised this as the phase that it was, and continued to encourage me to be active and to maintain my healthy diet.
    The one moment of my childhood where I really felt really low about my weight was on an occasion when my mother took me to the family GP for a totally unrelated issue. This particular doctor was completely devoid of personality and tact, and decided that this was the perfect time to lecture me on my weight. He told me that I was a fat child, and that my mother fed me too much junk food. Mum got angry disagreed, but the doctor kept at it. He told her that I probably stole chips in the night, and then proceeded to tell me that chips were 50% fat, and the numerous packets that I clearly ate every day were making me fat. Mum got really angry and walked out, but the judgement of the doctor has lasted me a lifetime.
    The negative message he conveyed to me was long lasting and pretty hurtful. I grew into my weight and am a reasonably slim and healthy 31 year old, yet I still remember his words every time I (rarely) eat chips. I really think that positive reinforcement and allowing a child time to grow into themselves and enjoy their childhood is more important than restricted diets and "not good enough" messages!

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    Default Re: Article in Daily Life re an obese 7 year old

    So the mum wants to effectively "cure"her daughter from ever being over weight? At 7? She wants her daughter to be so scared of putting on weight that she had potentially given her life long anxieties and a fear of food. What happens in 5 years time when she is 13? Should she still weigh 35 kg? Food is not an enemy. weight should not necessarily be the issue. Health should be. The mother did not appear to focus on being healthy at all. She was focusing on making sure her daughter did not become fat.

    2 very different things.

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    Default Article in Daily Life re an obese 7 year old

    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I agree the mum is an idiot.

    She rates herself as being some mothering weight loss guru but if she was all that her kid wouldn't have become overweight to start with.

    What type of mum puts her kids weight loss struggles in the public area? An attention seeking show pony, that's who. What kids wants every Tom **** and Harry to know her personal struggles?

    This diet and publicity, combined with the mums own food phobias she is projecting on her child... Well lets just say the poor kid is doomed.
    Woot! I agree with VicPark! :P

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    Default Article in Daily Life re an obese 7 year old

    I'm in two minds about this article- I feel sorry for the little girl, but as far as the mother is concerned, who am I to judge the methods she used?
    She recognised a problem with her child, sought advice and help from a medical professional, involved the whole family in a positive approach to dealing with the issue and hopefully helped her daughter become more mindful of her eating habits. IMHO, the approach she took may have been a little harsh, but at least she didn't turn a blind eye to the issue and allow her child to continue developing a really unhealthy relationship with food.
    I hope that my children never have issues with their weight, but TBH I don't know how I would deal with it if I was in that position. We all parent the best way we know how, and I'm sure that the strategies she used were done with the best of intention, because she loves and cares for her daughter.

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    Default Re: Article in Daily Life re an obese 7 year old

    I come from an obese family. Drs constantly told my mum i needed to lose weight we did so many diets and TBH I think this made it worse for my whole family as the focus was always on food. Now my sister is anorexic and I am still obese.
    Focusing on the negative is the quickest way to make kids feel bad about themselves and they will most likely turn to food later and associate it with negativity/ guilt.

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    Default Re: Article in Daily Life re an obese 7 year old

    "Now was not an acceptable time to be hungry."

    Seriously?! That woman had set her child up for an eating disorder because SHE had weight issues. And people say that parents who let their children overeat should be taught what they're doing wrong...

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