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    Default Re: Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    Quote Originally Posted by SimplyMum View Post
    I don't actually know if people do think this way but this is what I feel (might be my own insecurities)

    I'm a drop kick bludger Mum. That all I'm looking for is a way (or a guy) to get pregnant to again so I can live happily ever after (or for the next 8 years anyway) on the single parent pension.
    Oh no, people definitely have that attitude. I've heard such nonsense dribble out of the mouths of a fair few.
    Funny, the last 3 people i heard go on about it were all long term welfare recipients themselves. All on newstart.

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    Default Re: Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    I had an experience the other day that gave me a small glimpse of what you ladies deal with everyday.

    I hadn't changed my medicare details to my married name yet, so was still using Miss xxx maidenname. I was at the hospital because of my miscarriage and the nurse was treating me in an appalling manner, especially when she found out that I have a child already. We were going over my paperwork and she was confirming who my next of kin was and I told her he was my dh, her tone suddenly changed, she was sympathetic and went from telling me that my bub would have had something wrong with them (in a blunt way) to assuring me that it happens to so many of us and we'll hopefully be blessed with another bub soon. It was dusgusting!
    I feel so much empathy for any single mum that has to deal with jerks like this all the time

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    Default Re: Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    It's quite depressing when confronted with the treasury isn't it red lips. I do Hope you're ok and have some support for your loss : hugs2:

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    Default Re: Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Izy View Post
    It's quite depressing when confronted with the treasury isn't it red lips. I do Hope you're ok and have some support for your loss : hugs2:

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    It was atrocious! I have had great support, thank you

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    Treasury = reality dyac

    Please someone allow me access to a treasury!

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    Default Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    I'm not a single parent, never have been (often wondered about it though in a nice way!) but I often don't wear my wedding rings (massive stack of 3 these days) coz they make me get contact dermatitis so I let my finger 'breathe' to get better, and DH works away so I often go to things alone. I often get these looks and comments from strangers too! It breaks my heart a little bit how rude people can be! On top of society making mothers feel like failures I can't imagine why people need to add being a single parent to the insult list! It's a bloody great feat!

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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    I had an experience the other day that gave me a small glimpse of what you ladies deal with everyday.

    I hadn't changed my medicare details to my married name yet, so was still using Miss xxx maidenname. I was at the hospital because of my miscarriage and the nurse was treating me in an appalling manner, especially when she found out that I have a child already. We were going over my paperwork and she was confirming who my next of kin was and I told her he was my dh, her tone suddenly changed, she was sympathetic and went from telling me that my bub would have had something wrong with them (in a blunt way) to assuring me that it happens to so many of us and we'll hopefully be blessed with another bub soon. It was dusgusting!
    I feel so much empathy for any single mum that has to deal with jerks like this all the time


    Similar happened to me, when DH and I were not married. I had miscarried and was waiting for theatre to take me in, a nurse looked at me and said "What are you crying for? You will be back here in a few months time!"

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    So many horrible stories I'm so sorry for anyone that had to be the recipient of such nasty looks and comments at a time that is so heartbreaking to begin with.

    I feel I'm just starting to get the worst of it now with DS being at school. The moment you let out "Oh, DS's father and I aren't together"- eye twitch one but your reputation can still be saved with a "yes, we still have a great relationship. DS adores his Dad and we still have family dinners and get togethers- we're like your typical white picket fence family in 2 houses". But no, it's "No, he has no contact with his father. Has never met his father and hopefully never will". Than, the silence. The step away slowly before I catch whatever it is she's got, and darling children- don't play with that child- he has no father.

    I'm just thankful that DS is quite academic, otherwise I fear there might be further ridicule that I don't care and don't put the time in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SimplyMum View Post
    I feel I'm just starting to get the worst of it now with DS being at school. The moment you let out "Oh, DS's father and I aren't together"- eye twitch one but your reputation can still be saved with a "yes, we still have a great relationship. DS adores his Dad and we still have family dinners and get togethers- we're like your typical white picket fence family in 2 houses". But no, it's "No, he has no contact with his father. Has never met his father and hopefully never will". Than, the silence. The step away slowly before I catch whatever it is she's got, and darling children- don't play with that child- he has no father.
    Oh man, that's terrible, particularly that they would not want their child to play with your DS!

    Luckily DD goes to school with the child of a well-known underworld crime figure, and the child of a disgraced sporting celebrity, so me being a single mum is of absolutely no concern to anyone, lol!


 

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