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    Default Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    I'm no longer a single mum but I was with my eldest I hate to say it now with two kids and one on the way I actually hate going shopping by myself with the kids in tow because of the looks I get... And I'm married now!!! It really is awful just how judgmental people really are!

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    Far out. You people must know some horrible people. I have never had anyone say anything to me. Well except for my gay uncles ex boyfriend who said that my child would be a bast@#%. Umm ok.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnyflower View Post
    Far out. You people must know some horrible people. I have never had anyone say anything to me. Well except for my gay uncles ex boyfriend who said that my child would be a bast@#%. Umm ok.
    That's so nasty

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    Same here, Hokey Pokey. I had my DS1 in my teens and the way i was treated was absolutely appalling! I guess most of the judgement and assumptions people make about me are in regards to having children young and not so much being single.
    Even now, at 27, people seems to think i'm 19-21. So when i'm out with 2 kids in tow, it horrifies some people... but whatever, really! I'm learnt to not let it bother me so much over the years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HarvestMoon View Post
    Same here, Hokey Pokey. I had my DS1 in my teens and the way i was treated was absolutely appalling! I guess most of the judgement and assumptions people make about me are in regards to having children young and not so much being single.
    Even now, at 27, people seems to think i'm 19-21. So when i'm out with 2 kids in tow, it horrifies some people... but whatever, really! I'm learnt to not let it bother me so much over the years.
    Same.. I am 29 and get told I look like I'm 19 lol so when I have all 5 with me it get's the mouths going

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    Same.. I am 29 and get told I look like I'm 19 lol so when I have all 5 with me it get's the mouths going

    Oh i bet it does. People can be so nasty

    When people are like "oh you have 2 children?" I feel like saying no, i have 7, the others are at home/with their fathers, etc.. just to give them something to gasp and talk about.

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    I don't know where you people live. I never give a second's thought to how I appear in public, it's identical to how I did when I had a partner at home who worked night shifts! The only thing I get is: the constant assumption that I am DYING to meet a new man, that I cannot possibly be complete without a partner, that finding one must be my main priority in life. Even my boss advised me to try and form a relationship in order to "increase the support in my life" lol. So prehistoric. While I recognise that 99% of these people mean well, they fail to see that being a relationship with a man was the cause of all my "problems" in the first place. Nor that women can actually manage alone quite well these days. It isn't 1940. But ah well, what can you do...it makes me laugh because I can't find anyone I would even CONDSIDER letting into mine and the childrens' lives. Caution is 100x what is was when you have so much at stake.

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    Default Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    I got told by a customer the other day at work that he felt sorry for me being a single parent because no man really wants to date someone with kids already as it causes complications...umm thanks!! He then proceeds to ask me out for coffee...yeah when hell freezes over.

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    Default Single Parents - what assumptions do people make about you?

    When I first left XH, I had a lot of people saying to me 'oh it must be so hard for you being a single mum' to which I replied 'I did it all on my own before I left XH anyway so there's really no change for me. The only real difference is that my house stays clean :-)'

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