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    Question Couples counselling/marriage counselling

    Whatever you call it? Has anyone ever had this? Did it help?

    I have depression and anxiety and my marriage is suffering. I have extreme trouble showing my feelings/being intimate. I have no sex drive. DH feels unloved

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    Default Re: Couples counselling/marriage counselling

    First up hugs. Sounds similar to my and DPs relationship.
    I haven't seen a counselor with DP but have seen one on my own. Be prepared to try a few. It can take awhile to find one you like, and you would both have to feel comfortable with them.
    Also be open minded about the response you get. I know someone who stopped seeing their counselor because they didn't agree with her that their problems were all the husbands fault.
    Good luck, I think if you find someone you both feel comfortable with, and you are able to be honest, then a counselor can be a great help.
    Navigating a relationship through depression is hard work. I hope you and your husband come out the other end stronger for it.

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    we went to marriage counselling and it helped a great deal. When i was in hospital with PND and anxiety, my dr also had a chat to my dh to educate him on my illness which really helped him to understand stuff and improved our relationship a great deal. hugs to you...xx

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    Default Re: Couples counselling/marriage counselling

    Hokey Pokey me and DH will be looking into this ourselves as we were split for almost a year until recently. Sorry to hear what you're going through but IVe heard it can be very successful! There is hope lovely! x

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    Quote Originally Posted by DairyfreeDiva View Post
    we went to marriage counselling and it helped a great deal. When i was in hospital with PND and anxiety, my dr also had a chat to my dh to educate him on my illness which really helped him to understand stuff and improved our relationship a great deal. hugs to you...xx
    I think this is what my husband needs. I have only been home a week after being in a MBU for approx. 5 weeks and today he says to me "You spent 2 months in hospital and still have not changed". I just rolled over and cried

    He doesn't get it

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    just wanted to offer

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hokey Pokey View Post
    I think this is what my husband needs. I have only been home a week after being in a MBU for approx. 5 weeks and today he says to me "You spent 2 months in hospital and still have not changed". I just rolled over and cried

    He doesn't get it
    Are you seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist? I found it better coming from someone else to my DH about my depression/anxiety as whenever i tried to tell him it just ended in an argument. My dr talking to my dh was really a life changer. He "gets" it more now.

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    We saw a marriage councillors after DS was born. Our marriage was not in dire straights but I felt we were growing apart and we never had sex. It was the best thing for us and I draw on things from those sessions all the time. I think though if you have diagonosed issues maybe your psycologist should talk to your DH. He doesn't sound very understanding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DairyfreeDiva View Post
    Are you seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist? I found it better coming from someone else to my DH about my depression/anxiety as whenever i tried to tell him it just ended in an argument. My dr talking to my dh was really a life changer. He "gets" it more now.
    I have both

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    Quote Originally Posted by Huni&Coco View Post
    just wanted to offer
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