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    Hi

    i was the sorta boss at my work when we started ivf....and seriously EVERY woman there just about was pg...it wasnt a big office but it was a constant ****** of pg bellies i had to see every day....it was pure torture. It was so awful. Someone would come to me to tell me they were pg, others would ask me to sign off maternity leave paperwork....often just after id come from a BT or some other ivf appt....the worst of course was after i had a m/c at 10 wks....i had to come back and take over from MY boss who had just gone on mat leave the same week..it was like some sort of cruel joke that just got worse. I felt like a zombie, i would hold my $*** togther all day only to come home and cry or scream or cry all the way home in car...i admit i never felt happy for any of them...i just felt so depressed and angry ALL the time. It sucked. I really hope u dont have to endure it for much longer as i recall how truly terrible it was.

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    I just want to send all you lovely mummies to be some big hugs.

    I promise that the worry that karma says you won't get your own if you can't be happy for everyone else is totally untrue...my DD is proof of that one. She was 3 years in the making and by the end of that, I was very much in the place you are now and we were still blessed. The only reason you are jealous is because you are so full of love for your future baby and the universe understands that.

    I hope your journeys from here on are short and that your "take home" baby is the next one that takes hold.

    My heart goes out to you all and add my hope to your own

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    Thank you river song, very comforting all I can do is be happy in the thought that all the heartache will be completely outweighed by the happiness we will feel when our baby finally ends up in our arms.

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    Quote Originally Posted by River Song View Post
    I just want to send all you lovely mummies to be some big hugs.

    I promise that the worry that karma says you won't get your own if you can't be happy for everyone else is totally untrue...my DD is proof of that one. She was 3 years in the making and by the end of that, I was very much in the place you are now and we were still blessed. The only reason you are jealous is because you are so full of love for your future baby and the universe understands that.

    I hope your journeys from here on are short and that your "take home" baby is the next one that takes hold.

    My heart goes out to you all and add my hope to your own
    Very well said River Song.

    I hope you ladies don't mind me posting... We arent TTC anymore, though there is part of me that still has the feelings you talk about despite being blessed with two beautiful boys - the whole experience really changed me.

    It is normal for everyone I know who has had to seriously TTC. My old TTC diary is full of the emotions that you go through.

    I went through something similar when TTC for 18ish months. A lady at work told me she was UTD I literally went to the bathroom and vomited. She saw me go white and walk away, followed and found me being sick (I've never told anyone this! It's kind of embarrassing). She asked of I was sick and so I was just honest with her. I told her we were TTC and she opened up let me know about her past losses and became she one of my biggest confidants in my TTC journey. She was very compassionate.

    I agree with what others have said, hide people in FB if you need to - I know I did. It also really helped me that after about 10 months I came out of the TTC closet to most people. I found that because they knew they were genuinely considerate of my feelings, often calling me before posting in FB.

    All TTCers a constantly in my prayers... The very best of luck to you and your partners!

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    It has been a while but I just had another smack in the face with my massage lady announcing she is due in September.
    I feel so useless why can't it be me??? I should be happy for her but have just had a cry and now I'm angry at the world
    This is sooo hard, never thought I would be so emotional

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    Hi Ladies, I haven't posted on here in a few days and was catching up on the comments on this thread. Reading your stories breaks my heart because I really do know how you feel. DH & I have struggled through TTC and losing twins at 10.5 weeks and it hurts so much. DH has a daughter who is now 17 and although I am very close to her I do long for a child of my own. My stepdaughter is the oldest of 6 kids to five different dads (JUst to be clear she is the eldest and the only one belonging to DH). Everytime he mother gets another boyfriends she just pops out a baby to him. She drinks heavily and has smoked through all of her pregnancy's and her sister is in the same situation. They both pop out kids and use the child support as their source of income (It is tax free to them and they then get single mums welfare etc on top of it). It really annoys me that people like her have babys so easily and don't treat them that well or provide for them appropriately while others who have made a concious decision to have a baby, are in a stable relationship and have finances behind them seem to struggle. Kind of blows Darwins theory out of the water doesn't it (survival of the fittest).

    Anyway, the only way I have been able to cope with this and the other pregnant women of the world is to see a counsellor and it has really woked for me. My GP provided a care plan for me due to the stress of the miscarriage so I could see someone and have the bulk of the bill paid for under medicare. I use the sessions to vent my anger, cry and deal with my emoitional baggage so that I can try to let go of some of the anger and cope with situations such as pregnant women at work. It has really helped me and I urge you all to try it. I really value that time as 'me time' now and although it doesn't take all the hurt away I feel like I am trying to work through it and although the anger is still there it isn't eating me up inside on a daily basis. My relationship with DH has improved and I am feeling hope for the future.

    Sorry to rave on but I do think that counselling is worth a shot. It won't fix your issues but will help you cope with them in a healthier way.

    Love and hugs to all

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    Quote Originally Posted by mel ruffles View Post
    It has been a while but I just had another smack in the face with my massage lady announcing she is due in September.
    I feel so useless why can't it be me??? I should be happy for her but have just had a cry and now I'm angry at the world
    This is sooo hard, never thought I would be so emotional
    Ohhhh hugs Mel!! It's horrible isn't it? I never thought I would be either I just had to catch up with the other lady at work who's UTD-she's bragging about her scans n blah blah STFU is what I feel like saying but instead I nod politely n try n steer the conversation to work

    I'll back later to do personals but I just wanted to say thank u to everyone sharing their story-with each one I'm feeling more better about who I am n trusting karma will not play a part in this chapter of my life x

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    Default How do you work alongside pregnant women while TTC?

    Thanks for the support ladies. I am struggling so bad this week. Due to o this weekend so hopefully feeling more motivated to dtd.
    I have just changed my fb status to say taking a break from fb, not that I said why but I just can't handle all the photos and birth/pregnancy announcements...they are invading everywhere I look


 

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