There is 6 and a half years between my brother and I. It was fun teaching him stuff and being the "big sister". Although it did keep me from growing up at the same time as everyone else (mainly because I didn't have many friends).
There will be just under 2 years between my son and newbie due in August. I think it will be hard but I wanted to get all the "baby stage" out of the way! I think if we have a third I will wait until the other two have gone to school.
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And a friend of mine I think has 40 years between her and her oldest sibling. She is the youngest. Her mum passed away a few years ago and she lives with her brother and sister in law.
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There is nearly 28 years between me and my youngest sister
I'm 30, my brother is almost 4 and my sister is 2. I'm 15 weeks pregnant with my first lol.
It's awesome to be a big sissy at my age!
There 18 1/2 years between DD1 and DS3. With all sort of gaps in between. There is no ideal gap.
Our kids will have exactly 4 years apart, which is what we intended. Our second baby is due 3 days after our DS 's 4th birthday
We didn't want our kids really close together & I honestly think it will be a perfect age gap. They will still have time at home together before DS starts school, but they also get time apart while DS is at kindy. It gives me time to enjoy the baby, it gives the baby a break from DS hassling her/him & while DS is at kindy he gets a break from the day-to-day boredom of baby life. They will still be growing up together!
Don't feel pressured to add to your family unless you are ready. Every family is different! If I had followed what "other people do" & had 2 kids under 3 or whatever, I doubt I would be this excited & happy Mum who can't wait to enjoy another baby & give my DS a sibling
in response to how they will interact when they are older, i have a 6.5 yr gap between my sister and I and DH has a 10 yr gap between his brother and him, and all of us get alone really well, and you cant pick the age gaps unless you ask, but maybe thats because despite the difference we are all at the same life stage now.
even growing up there wasnt really any sibling rivalry because we were at different stages (My younger sister and I are 13 months apart and that was all sorts of crazy lol)
Relationships also change as people change.
What's a good relationship between two young children might be a shocking one when they're older. Or vice versa. Or maybe it's always the same.
I didn't hate my brother until we grew up and both became adults. We fought as kids, but I never hated him.
I have 5 years between #1 and #2. It wasn't planned that way and we lost a baby when DS was 3.
I wouldn't ever "choose" a 5 year gap. It does have it's postives, but I've found it to be too big.
For me personally I would find more than 4 years too big a gap- just because i don't want to be raising young children for a very long time. There's a 17 year gap between me and my youngest half brother. My dad is tiiiiiired.
I get along better with my brother with a 13 year gap the best, much more so than my brother with a 2 year gap. That said, its a really different relationship. R (2 year gap) grew up with me, we share memories, we stood up for each other, we gang up on mum and dad. S (13 yr gap) and i don't have that same bond of a shared history. We get along great but i always wanted my kids to have that similar bond that R and I have.
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