Thanks so much for your responses, definitely has given me more confidence.
I think the main thing I was concerned about was how they would interact when they're kids and later on in life
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Subscribing. My DS is only 2 years old but I won't be having another one before he's 3... maybe even 4. Like you OP, everyone I know seems to go for that 2-3 year gap. I'm almost starting to feel like something is wrong with me because I haven't felt ready to have another yet (nor has my DH).
The other thing is... I'm an an only child myself and it wasn't that bad. My parents intended to have another but had secondary fertility issues (always weighs on the back of my mind as I hope not to have the same!) I had heaps of cousins to keep me company whereas my DS won't. So I am kind of feeling that pressure to have another to give him a sibling before too long but I want to do it when I'm ready too. It's tricky!
I'm 11, 13 and 15 years older than my little brothers. We're so very close. Sure, we didn't get the childhood together, but we have a way cooler relationship. They come and have sleepovers at my house, we get along really well. There's no reason a big age gap won't result in close sibs!
Sometimes you don't really get much of a choice...
I had grand plans of having about a 3-4 year gap.
My daughter is now 7.5 and there is no baby happening any time soon.
It wasn't an active decision - I split from her father just before she turned 3. Obviously no baby-making could be done responsibly at that point. I then started a new relationship, and I had to let that bloom and develop... blah blah etc.
He has opinions on when babies should happen too - so I don't just get to choose on my own. As it turns out, we've decided to TTC in the middle of 2014. That means my daughter will be 9 when we TTC. There will be roughly 10 years gap...
I don't think a gap determines the relationship children we have either. I'm 18 months older than my brother. I loathe him. Absolutely hate him.
One of DP's sisters is about 6 years older. They don't really get along. His other sister is 10 years older. They do get along well.
The ex's brother was a few years younger. They got along okay. His sister was 10 years older, and she really adored her brothers.
The ex's nieces are 3 years apart, and fight a lot. They now have a new brother and sister... the eldest has about 12 years on her brother now, and she adores him. Absolutely. She doesn't really like the youngest much (who is about 14 years younger than her).
It really just depends on the individuals, rather than the gaps.
There's 16 and 18 years between my sisters and I and they are my best friends. We are so close even though they're in their early 40's and me my mid 20's. Age gaps really are no indication of how well siblings will get along. My brother is 3 years older and we're not necessarily close at all, we only see each other at mums place and don't catch up or text/call each other unlike my sisters and I who speak daily!
I have 7 years between my two, I love it so much easier as the older one isn't a baby anymore and vey self sufficient not to mention at school so I can nap when the baby did..
I'm now onto my 3rd pregnancy and there will be nearly 2.5/3 years between my youngest and this bub I'm worried at when I will get to rest when this bub comes!
Between dd1 & dd2 there is 21 months I wish I had them a little closer
Between dd2 & this bub it will be just shy of 5 years which I think is too much
Ideally I would have liked around 15month age gap between the kids
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