Pickledpink - That is a great way of looking at it! And how lovely for your DD to help with feeds. That's something I'd never thought of, and definitely something that will be a comfort for me if I end up FF my baby (getting DD involved).
Thanks redlips... I love your statement about "you" being the best thing for your child! I'm going to embrace that
I was just soo blissfully ignorant on soo many things.....still am and frankly I enjoy being that way. I didnt know it was supposed to be shameful to not be able to BF. The thought just never occurred to me.
I visited my friend the other day whos baby was 3days old and she handed me a bottle so I could feed her daughter. She said she was on formula cos bubby wasnt latching on etc. etc. and it was just like 'oh ok cool..naww look at her, shes soo cute' ....the thought of tut tutting her "failure" was not present and thankfully she didnt seem upset by it either. Plus, I got to feed a 3day old Cuuuute!!
I wish more people were like you, London.
Although, I think (hope) that most of us in here would feel the same way.
A friend of mine keeps talking about putting her baby on to formula, as she's struggling and not enjoying BF. I just keep telling her to do whatever she thinks is best, and trying to support her in whatever she wants to do. However, she keeps justifying it to me, and saying how awful she feels about even talking about it - and I really am the last person in the world she needs to worry about in that regard! So sad that any of us feel that way - especially at a time when we should be enjoying our new babies.
I really don't think it matters if bub is breast or formula fed, as long as they are! Although, if someone is hesitant to try breastfeeding, I will gently encourage them to atleast try, whatever they choose after that is not my issue.
My d's was ff from 8 weeks and lots of guilt thereafter. Dd was ff from 6months on, no guilt.
What I liked?
No more worrying about what I could eat/drink.
No more worrying about supply, how much they're drinking, pumping, sore leaky boobs.
Never running out or having a crying baby that's hungry with not enough to give.
Dh getting up at night, sleeping in on weekends, having them babysat.
Their feeds no longer being my only focus and concern.
That's probably more what I didn't miss about bf than what I liked about ff, but same thing, ff the 2nd time came with alot of contentment after 6months of torture!!
I was very lucky in that my mother drummed it into me that my brother & I were ff from near birth (3 weeks for me, 10 days for him) & never suffered for it. I credit her with the fact that I felt no guilt about my decision no matter how much SIL & MIL tried to shame me!
Girls I took it as a good thing. I'm a do what you need to do to feed your baby person and have ff DD since 15 weeks old and will FF my next baby from the beginning and I haven't taken offense.
In my mind I thought it was changed to prevent the 'breast is best above all else' brigade from coming in and trying to push their ideas or disagree with us. No?
Is it a mother thing to love wine? I'm not at the point of knowing how I'm going to feed (so sorry for butting in ^__^) but I'm open to the idea when bub comes along and honestly, the biggest perk I can foresee is my cans of v again!!! Having serious withdrawals and I'm not even halfway through pregnancy yet wahh. *goes back to reading everyone's stories*
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