She's very confused and was really upset yesterday. It's extremely difficult for her to try and come to terms that in order to try and 'fix' this problem and get her life back, it means going against her Aunty... that's something that is NOT what happens generally in Pinay families. The Aunty has as much authority as the mother.
Anyway... she asked me what I thought. I said that if she really wants to be happy she needs to think about HER future... she aunty has a life, has a fmaliy, has a job and a house and a husband here already... but my friends happiness is based in Manila, with her partner. I told her that if she wants a future she needs to talk to HIM and make decisions with HIM, NOT her aunty, but him.
I got a message from her late last night saying she has spoken with her partner- and she seemed in a good mood, her facebook posts this morning have been positive- so I'm hoping that she now has his support- has been able to explain the situation, and together work out a solution.
I've found out she can cancel her spouse visa application (at the moment she is on a temporary marriage visa) and apply for a bridging visa with permission to work due to financial hardship in order to make a arrangements to leave Australia. That would be the easiest and least disruptive way for her.
If she cancels her spouse visa- stating the relationship has failed because she was unaware of the extent of her husbands disability, and he is unable to provide a stable financial future for her and her children, as well as critical personality differences and excessive anxiety caused by the situation in which she is being forced to take on the position of his carer, which she was unaware of prior to living with him- and irreparable communication difficulties caused by the language barrier and his inability to comprehend because of his intellectual disability.
I don't know much about annulment. She'll have to talk to BDM about that. But at least if things are out in the open with her partner, they can work through it.
I'll let you know what happens.