I have a new friend,
A gorgeous Filipina lady who was coerced by her Aunty into marrying an Australian.
She was pressured into is as she is a single mum with 2 little boys and her Aunty kept saying that life would be better for them in Australia..
Her Aunty was family friends with this guys family, and she kept telling my friend how nice he is and blah blah blah.
Well.. she came over and married him... and is miserable.
I feel so badly for her.
She also left behind a really nice boyfriend in the Philippines who she really loves and who really loves her. But it's so hard for her because of the pressure from her Aunty to come to Australia as the kids would have a better future here. Her Aunty doesn't know about her pinay boyfriend, and her boyfriend doesn't know about her marriage here.
She wants to leave the guy she married- he has a disability and the only reason his family wanted her to marry him was so they didn't have the responsibility of caring for him.
Does anyone know much about visas and things?
She just wants to go home, but needs to get the money for a ticket. So she wants to cancel the spouse visa and apply for a working visa or ANYTHING just so she can work, to get back home.
My heart just breaks for her. She feels awful about the whole situation, and doesn't know how to explain it to her boyfriend. He thinks she's over here working, and just wants her to come home so he can marry her.
She wants to marry him too! But has been pressured into this stupid 'marriage' by her aunty who keeps saying "just be patient- wait 2 years and then you can get residency and the kids can stay here". She can't stand the guy, can't talk to him because of his disability, he yells and swears all the time.
I wish there was some way I could turn back time for her and say to her aunty 'no'.
She didn't tell her aunty about her boyfriend, because she already has two children from when she was younger, and she didn't want to get in trouble with her family for having another boyfriend. He (her boyfriend) was waiting on a pending divorce from his first wife- and that has come through now, so he just says to her "let me know when you are coming back and I can get a house for us and the boys (including his son who he has custody of) and book them into a private school."
Sorry for the rant.. but I feel so bad for her.
Does anyone have any info about the whole visa thing? It's really hard for her because of the language barrier and the family pressure to know what to do. She doesn't think she can get a working visa as she is unskilled, and she can work on a spouse visa, but she needs to work to get the money for the tickets back... and wants to cancel her spouse visa.