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    DP was like that throughout my whole pregnancy. It made me cry myself to sleep so often, especially when I got appendicitis when I was 32 weeks and there was a real risk to bub he just did not seem concerned about her but intensely about me. That all changed after she was born, it turned out he was so terrified he would not be able to cope he would not feel what he should Eric. He is a wonderful father and I have even heard him say dd is the best thing that's ever happened to him- that makes my heart melt.

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    I just want to add don't expect it to magically change the second you child is born it might take time but it will happen. DP was so scared of hurting her in the beginning he sort of just hovered and watched. Once dd got a little bigger and didn't look as breakable he was much better

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    My husband's been a bit the same with both of our pregnancies. When I am pregnant thoughts of the baby and planning consume me (which I'm sure is a hormonal thing...but might get a bit boring for him!). For him, he seems to not give it a whole lot of thought. He's happy to come along with me to scans etc, but he's just not excited in the way that I would like him to get excited. I gather from talking to him about it that it just doesn't seem real to him until the baby is born.

    But, I was amused to notice that even though he never acts excited about it to me, he was the one keen to tell all of his friends about this pregnancy and sneakily sending PMs to all of his Facebook friends.

    And of course, men tend to stress a bit more about the financial side of things, too. That whole breadwinner thing (even though women are often jointly financially supporting families these days) is ingrained in their psyches.

    So I agree it is a guy thing. My DH is so besotted with our son that sometimes I feel like saying, "Hey, remember me...over here...your wife?!" But he, too, was a bit of a deer in the headlights when DS was born and colicky and waking every two hours and fragile.

    I'm sure your husband will come good when he sees your beautiful baby.

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    It's so common for men to not show much emotions toward a pregnancy.
    Just don't try and push the subject too much.

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    Default Re: Anyone else's partner less than excited about their pregnancy?

    Mine forgets im pregnant sometimes I think because its so early so not visual proof aswel. He offers me alcohol and then when I sat umm im pregnant hes like oops I forgot. Men are weird hopefully once this pregnancy progresses he will start acting different. I think hes so scared because of our last mc

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