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    I was thinking of buying a cheap stroller for him to use just so I don't have to put up with the grief I get for not sending mine for him to use but I really think that he should be providing, I have done everything for my son since being pregnant and he doesn't do anything so if I do this I feel like I am saying to him that's ok I will continue to do everything and hand it all to you on a silver platter.

    It frustrates me to no end especially as he has pushed and pushed for over nights but isn't happy to have what he needs if that makes sense!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I provided DD with clothes and toys, a carseat, pram, etc. All her stuff.

    I would have rather he got them himself, but he wouldn't, so I figured that it was best for HER if I just sucked it up and did it myself... so she didn't go without. I often even provided snacks because I just couldn't trust he'd have anything to give her, and I purchased a set of "extra" clothes that were reserved just for visits with him and daycare. I provided nappies too, because he wouldn't have... and I just felt sorry for her.

    ^^^ exactly why I do it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by PurpleMumma View Post
    Ok so even though I get child support $31 a month he still should supply everything?

    he keeps saying that because he isn't working I should do it eg he wants to take the baby swimming and called to ask me to supply swimmer nappies

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    Are you kidding?

    Of course he should supply whatever your child needs while in his care! He's her parent! You've provided for her, you don't have to provide again for him!

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    Default what do you provide when children are at their dads

    You don't need to supply anything, my dd now 10 goes when she feels like it but I still pack clothes her dads a loser and won't buy her anything, I know my dd has her things and feels better she now knows things are to be put back in her bag inc dirty clothes least that way they all come back

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeetTheBluths View Post
    Are you kidding?

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    nope not kidding, he thinks that because he pays I have to provide!

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    Quote Originally Posted by PurpleMumma View Post
    nope not kidding, he thinks that because he pays I have to provide!
    Right. Nice.

    DS's dad pays a lot more child support than that but still provides extra, because he doesn't see DS as a financial commodity. I loathe people who complain about paying child support and use it against the recipients. It's foul. Your ex is looking at this all wrong IMO. But hey, like sassy mummy said, if its for your daughters benefit then you may have to compromise, especially if he's not going to change his attitude and man up anytime soon.

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    Default Re: what do you provide when children are at their dads

    The money he pays is actually to help supply the child with necessities when not with him. The amount varies with contact time and income. My DP pays CS yet we still provide everything when step daughter is with us. When I went to my dads I had a set of clothes that I took as he smoked inside and mum was sick of my clothes always stinking. Otherwise, dad had supplied everything

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    My SD comes here just with what she's dressed in, her room is set up as if she lives here & that's how I feel it should be.

    She isn't a guest here

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    Default what do you provide when children are at their dads

    We do it exactly like bradybunch. It's a million times easier for everyone.

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    Default what do you provide when children are at their dads

    I supplied at first when DS was 1, but when he got to around 2 I stopped and told him to do it especially since he wouldn't pay child support!


 

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