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    hi!!

    My son has just started to go to his dads every second weekend. I supply everything except for food.

    Are they meant to supply everything?
    I have refused to let him have my pram as it cost a lot of money and I an precious about it but apparently I am nasty for not providing this even though I supply everything else including porta cot and nappies etc

    would love to hear what other parents supply

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    Omg no!!! He should be providing everything while he has your son. I send clothes but am going to stop this very soon as everything comes back filthy and ruined.

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    Sorry but I think he should have everything there! I'm not a single mum but I really think you should be letting him purchase these things just so he has his own stash.

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    Ok so even though I get child support $31 a month he still should supply everything?

    he keeps saying that because he isn't working I should do it eg he wants to take the baby swimming and called to ask me to supply swimmer nappies

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    I send clothes, although I probably shouldn't because nothing ever comes back. I've even sent him a bag of stuff to keep at his house but that gets lost as well. Once I went over and rifled around in his house and found loads of her clothes. Some stuff that had been missing for years and now too small to be of any use, grr

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    No he needs to supply everything himself.

    He's not looking after the child as a favour to you...it's his responsibility just as much as it is yours.

    $31 buys a box of nappies a month and a child costs a lot more than that

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    $31 a month is nothing, I hope he doesn't use that as an excuse for not supplying anything. I get the same and if he were to have my son over, even if its only every second weekend I'd expect him to buy stuff. I provide stuff at mine out of MY pocket so I would want to insure its well cared for in the case of my pram etc. He should provide swim nappies etc. He could just get a $20 stroller since its only for 4 days a month

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    I dont believe you should supply anything. I sent clothes with my boys until he sorted some out himself. He said next time he has the kdis he wont need the car seats either because he FINALLY is getting some of his own for them He wouldnt even let them take a costume each that they were wearing when he came to pick them up. They were so upset because they wanted to show their dads gf and her son. Ahole lol

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    I provided DD with clothes and toys, a carseat, pram, etc. All her stuff.

    I would have rather he got them himself, but he wouldn't, so I figured that it was best for HER if I just sucked it up and did it myself... so she didn't go without. I often even provided snacks because I just couldn't trust he'd have anything to give her, and I purchased a set of "extra" clothes that were reserved just for visits with him and daycare. I provided nappies too, because he wouldn't have... and I just felt sorry for her.

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    Well DS only stays fir the day or overnight so I pack DS's bag with his clothes, nappies, teddy-bear, favourite books and pillow. But his dad provides nappies and always sends his nappies and re-packs his bag and sends it all back home with DS. He does need to get him a bed now though as he is no longer in a cot and sleeps on a mattress on the floor!

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