Anyway, I am right now a very confused mummy. I thought I know my baby very well but he's changing so fast, I cannot catch up.
Last edited by Mom2TwoDSs; 17-01-2013 at 12:14.
How long did you try the dream feed for? I was told to do it for at least a week before calling it a failure
Twice so far. I think we could try it again.
I haven't read the other posts.
14 weeks is pretty young to expect them to not want night feeds.
Having said that however, I feed my baby on demand but still do feed, play, sleep during the day and then feed, sleep at night. Once he was about 3 months he was still waking at night for feeds but only drinking 20-40mls or so. So one night I have him his dummy rather than feeding him straight away and he went back to sleep. That's when I realised he just wanted comfort rather than being hungry.
So now I just try the dummy trick or try and resettle him again. If they don't work then ill feed him.
Since I feed on demand there is never a pattern but most nights (he is now 6 months) he will have a bottle between 5-8pm and that will be the last bottle until some where around 4-7am. Sometimes I get a good long sleep and other times he will sleep 9pm to 4am. But either way he is a happy baby, so I'm a happy mummy.
Every baby is different. Some will drop their night feeds early and others will be hungry in the night for a while. Let your baby tell you what they want and just go with it :-)
Last edited by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah; 17-01-2013 at 19:31.
Mom2Two, My DS is very similar(also 14 weeks) & I'm also very confused. Just when I think I have him sorted he changes & Everything falls apart again.
We tried the dream feed for 2 weeks & it never worked, DS would still wake at 12-1am for a feed so we stopped it. He feeds at 5-6pm for bed then sleeps til 12-1 & up for another feed then wakes at 4am is is unsettled for 1.5 hours. I know he isn't hungry cause I've tried giving him a bottle & he only ever takes 20-30mls so I give him a dummy at this stage at then he will usually feed around 5.30-6am.
During the day it's totally different, he feeds every 3 hours without fail, I can't get him to go longer at all. As he only catnaps we have never been able to do any type of sleep, feed, play routine.
It is very hard, & having an unpredictable baby with their feed & sleep times makes it so much harder.
IMO if bub has a feed-to-sleep association that is going to cause multiple night wakings it will appear at the 4 month sleep regression - and bub will start waking at least every two hours. Your bub sounds like they are doing very well, I wouldn't worry yet.
I am trying to establish a feed play sleep routine with my very brand new DD because DS' did wake 1-2 hourly for a breastfeed from 4-8 months and I almost always fed to sleep or rocked him in the swing. I agree with PP that the most important thing is putting bub down drowsy but awake.
Nope, didnt work for us. I was taught the feed, play, sleep routine as a way to get my DD to sleep, but she would never self settle and would always wake up hungry.
As soon as I introduced another feed before putting her down to sleep, she started self settling as we had a nap and bedtime routine sorted. This was at about 6 months old, but was still waking 2-3 times a night for feeds, only now at 10.5 months has she started sleeping through most nights.
The whole feed play sleep routine was established to avoid the feed to sleep issue, but if you follow feed play sleep, add a top up feed before naps and bed time but ensure bub doesnt fall asleep during the last feed. Combine it with a good routine and bubs will soon figure out its time to sleep and will go to sleep with a full tummy.
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