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    Quote Originally Posted by Rosie Bb View Post
    FYI I never changed my tune. I stand by what I believe in. I think bf is best but don't understand why mothers would breastfeed in public when there's a mothers room just around the corner.
    Well, just as an example... If you were sitting with your friends in a restaurant, having a great time, would you then want to go off and sit in a crowded/ noisy/ smelly room all by yourself (to feed your baby), while your friends all carried on their lunch/ coffee without you? Especially considering the other option would be to stay with them, enjoy your coffee/ lunch, and feed your baby there at the table where everyone else was?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rosie Bb View Post
    FYI I never changed my tune. I stand by what I believe in. I think bf is best but don't understand why mothers would breastfeed in public when there's a mothers room just around the corner.
    But there AREN'T mothers rooms just around the corner! A lot depends on where you live, of course. But in Hobart, mothers rooms aren't a luxury you see often, and when you do, they're mostly small, dank and stinky!

    So there's no mothers room "just around the corner" when you're at the pool. The beach. The restaurant. The fast-food outlet. The supermarket. The Library. The post office. In Kmart. In Target. Shall I go on...?

    I breastfeed in public, because more often than not, it's my only choice. Unless of course you want me to cram myself, my baby, my 3yo, my 5yo and my 6yo into a disgusting toilet cubicle if there so happens to be toilets near by...?



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    Op, I think you've been given some great responses. There is no right or wrong way, only the best way for you and bub!

    I agree with trying bf first, just for the extra goodness. When bub arrives and you've been feeding for a while, whichever way you go, you'll know what works best for you guys.

    Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy :-)

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    I agree with Lillynix. I've had 7 kids and breast fed them all, my oldest is almost 15 years old. I have never come across a "great" mothers room the whole time. I refused to feed my kids in a room that smelt like a toilet

    I fed them in the food court in a shopping centre because at the end of the day, that's what they were getting - food.

    Ironically, the best mothers room I have ever found was at north lakes shopping centre whilst on holiday, and I found it by accident

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rosie Bb View Post
    FYI I never changed my tune. I stand by what I believe in. I think bf is best but don't understand why mothers would breastfeed in public when there's a mothers room just around the corner.
    Sometimes mother's or parents rooms are disgusting. Sometimes they are in car parks and stink. Sometimes (like one I was in in the old myer in Melbourne) are so remote and isolated that when you are in ne you feel vulnerable. I was feeding DD2 and had finished and was leaving when a very unparent-like man strode in and started looking around. He was late 50s and clearly wasn't there to change or feed a baby or child. If I had been feeding and he'd come in to watch, or something sinister, what would I do?

    After that experience I never used a parents room again to feed (unless they were in very accessible places).

    Rosie do you have kids? Have you bf a baby? I think you need to be very careful questioning how other mothers feed their babies. There can be lots of different reasons why we choose to do what we do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nikki245 View Post
    Hi there,

    I am just about 20 weeks pregnant, and am starting to get all kinds of questions in regards to whether I plan on breastfeeding.

    I am having trouble deciding, and am hoping to get some advice on how others made the decision.

    My biggest concern is that I will be returning to work part time shortly after Jelly Bean arrives, and as such will have to express quite frequently if I do decide to breastfeed. I also do a bit of travelling with work (just overnight or two night trips) and that will mean a great deal of expressing. In all convenience considerations, it will be much easier and benefitial for me to go straight to formula. My mother was unable to breastfeed and she said she does not feel as though we were disadvantaged or she missed out on anything, but I am worried I may regret it down the track. Also, I am going private, so I fee like there will be a lot of people around judging me for making a decision based primarily on what is most convenient.

    My DH has told me he will support me no matter what, and doesn't seem to have a preference. So I am kind of making this decision alone. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!
    Why don't you wait till baby arrives instead of making a decision now. Things change when your holding bub, you will probably try and want to do it. Bf not only is the best start for them but its a beautiful way to bond with your baby,.
    I do know that it takes commitment also, it's not easy, but again, it's a wait and see. I don't think you can plan this, you can 100%commit to bfeeding and it doesn't work out, or you can decide to give formula but change your mind when your holding your new baby.

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    Default Breastfeeding Debate...

    Quote Originally Posted by Rosie Bb View Post
    FYI I never changed my tune. I stand by what I believe in. I think bf is best but don't understand why mothers would breastfeed in public when there's a mothers room just around the corner.
    Numerous people have explained why to you, you seem to have disregarded every single response. Many people also pointed out the downsides of parents rooms and the fact that they aren't always available. Why keep posting that you don't understand? You don't have to understand as how others feed their babies is none of your business anyway and you clearly have no wish to understand it.

    Anyway OP, I think you've got some great advice here, all the best with bub, however you choose to feed

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rosie Bb View Post
    FYI I never changed my tune. I stand by what I believe in. I think bf is best but don't understand why mothers would breastfeed in public when there's a mothers room just around the corner.
    I don't understand why some women would expect other mums to not breastfeed in any place they like.

    Luckily law is quite clear cut on the matter :-)
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    Default Breastfeeding Debate...

    All the parents rooms I have been in I felt like I could see virus's and bacteria everywhere, pooey nappys, sick toddlers, I felt very uncomfortable taking my newborn in there. They are not these magical, comfortable rooms you seem to imagine. They are cramped, smelly and some are kind of creepy.

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    Hi OP,
    I have only read bits and pieces of the replies in this thread so my comment is purely based on your question. Just thought I'd share my experience as this debate is something that always stirs up emotion in me.
    I wanted to breast feed so very bad. When I had DS I managed for a couple of weeks but, for various reasons I switched to formula (not saying that that in itself is a bad thing, he has thrived and is now a fit, strong and healthy 13 year old... ) it's just that with my DD, born last year, I wanted desperately to give breast feeding another go and even refused to buy any bottles or formula as I was so certain I could do it. And I did, for just 24 hours. The moment DD was born I placed her on my boob and she happily guzzled away for 2 hours straight. I was ecstatic and so proud of myself and my little piggy baby girl! Whether she was just at it for comfort or actully got some colostrum (sp?) I don't know- but the next morning I woke to her cries and and naturally attempted to bf her again- except I couldn't do it. She was not latching correctly and my nipples were black and blue and bleeding from her previous attempt- apparantly I didn't ever have her attached properly and was now left with a painful, blistered mess. Combine this with exhaustion from just having given birth and practically zero sleep in 48 hours (my labour was induced after 45 hours of my water breaking and no regular contractons) and a nurse who shoved a piece of paper under my nose to sign over my right to breast feed (she was an evil bi.tch, she said to me, in my most fragile state, "you better decide what you want to do, either formula or breast feed her") some consent form if I wanted DH to bring ni bottles/formula) and me wailing "I just want to feed my baby!!", not to mention the breast feeding specialist informing me that I had very small nipples (which is why DD wasn't attached correctly) and would need nipple shields etc... I put my boobs away and formula fed.
    While it was a huge saviour and relief, I still, to this day (DD is 6 months) feel so much guilt over my failure to bf my baby. And I hate that I feel that way because there is abolutely nothing wrong with formula feeding at all, I know that, but for some reason I can't get ovr not succeeding at it.
    My DD is thriving and healthy, I guess my post is of no real value and I'm actaully surprised that I had the guts to share my personal experiences. Anyway, I hope that whatever happens you are not as hard on yourself as I am and have been; my advice would be: eveyones circumstances are different... as Pp have said, if it works, BF for as long as possible. But feel no shame in FF! I'm still trying to let go of my self disappointment and hope that everything works put for you.
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