So there's no mothers room "just around the corner" when you're at the pool. The beach. The restaurant. The fast-food outlet. The supermarket. The Library. The post office. In Kmart. In Target. Shall I go on...?
I breastfeed in public, because more often than not, it's my only choice. Unless of course you want me to cram myself, my baby, my 3yo, my 5yo and my 6yo into a disgusting toilet cubicle if there so happens to be toilets near by...?
*I can haz typos*
mama and her little bearxxx (18-01-2013)
Op, I think you've been given some great responses. There is no right or wrong way, only the best way for you and bub!
I agree with trying bf first, just for the extra goodness. When bub arrives and you've been feeding for a while, whichever way you go, you'll know what works best for you guys.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy :-)
I agree with Lillynix. I've had 7 kids and breast fed them all, my oldest is almost 15 years old. I have never come across a "great" mothers room the whole time. I refused to feed my kids in a room that smelt like a toilet
I fed them in the food court in a shopping centre because at the end of the day, that's what they were getting - food.
Ironically, the best mothers room I have ever found was at north lakes shopping centre whilst on holiday, and I found it by accident
After that experience I never used a parents room again to feed (unless they were in very accessible places).
Rosie do you have kids? Have you bf a baby? I think you need to be very careful questioning how other mothers feed their babies. There can be lots of different reasons why we choose to do what we do.
I do know that it takes commitment also, it's not easy, but again, it's a wait and see. I don't think you can plan this, you can 100%commit to bfeeding and it doesn't work out, or you can decide to give formula but change your mind when your holding your new baby.
Anyway OP, I think you've got some great advice here, all the best with bub, however you choose to feed
All the parents rooms I have been in I felt like I could see virus's and bacteria everywhere, pooey nappys, sick toddlers, I felt very uncomfortable taking my newborn in there. They are not these magical, comfortable rooms you seem to imagine. They are cramped, smelly and some are kind of creepy.
I have only read bits and pieces of the replies in this thread so my comment is purely based on your question. Just thought I'd share my experience as this debate is something that always stirs up emotion in me.
I wanted to breast feed so very bad. When I had DS I managed for a couple of weeks but, for various reasons I switched to formula (not saying that that in itself is a bad thing, he has thrived and is now a fit, strong and healthy 13 year old... ) it's just that with my DD, born last year, I wanted desperately to give breast feeding another go and even refused to buy any bottles or formula as I was so certain I could do it. And I did, for just 24 hours. The moment DD was born I placed her on my boob and she happily guzzled away for 2 hours straight. I was ecstatic and so proud of myself and my little piggy baby girl! Whether she was just at it for comfort or actully got some colostrum (sp?) I don't know- but the next morning I woke to her cries and and naturally attempted to bf her again- except I couldn't do it. She was not latching correctly and my nipples were black and blue and bleeding from her previous attempt- apparantly I didn't ever have her attached properly and was now left with a painful, blistered mess. Combine this with exhaustion from just having given birth and practically zero sleep in 48 hours (my labour was induced after 45 hours of my water breaking and no regular contractons) and a nurse who shoved a piece of paper under my nose to sign over my right to breast feed (she was an evil bi.tch, she said to me, in my most fragile state, "you better decide what you want to do, either formula or breast feed her") some consent form if I wanted DH to bring ni bottles/formula) and me wailing "I just want to feed my baby!!", not to mention the breast feeding specialist informing me that I had very small nipples (which is why DD wasn't attached correctly) and would need nipple shields etc... I put my boobs away and formula fed.
While it was a huge saviour and relief, I still, to this day (DD is 6 months) feel so much guilt over my failure to bf my baby. And I hate that I feel that way because there is abolutely nothing wrong with formula feeding at all, I know that, but for some reason I can't get ovr not succeeding at it.
My DD is thriving and healthy, I guess my post is of no real value and I'm actaully surprised that I had the guts to share my personal experiences. Anyway, I hope that whatever happens you are not as hard on yourself as I am and have been; my advice would be: eveyones circumstances are different... as Pp have said, if it works, BF for as long as possible. But feel no shame in FF! I'm still trying to let go of my self disappointment and hope that everything works put for you.
Last edited by ~Marigold~; 18-01-2013 at 22:41.
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