So much of what has been said has resonated with me as someone who has experienced 2 blighted ovums and several other losses. Having a miscarriage absolutely does rock your confidence and faith in your own body but I think it is important to remember that while it is a common occurrence (1 in 3 pregnancies will end in mc) the vast majority of people will go onto have a healthy baby.
I also agree once you fall pregnant again the fear does stay with you, how can it not once you have faced the fragility of life? One of the things I struggled with the most with both of my BO pregnancies was people's ignorance about what the loss meant to me and the assumption that 'there wasn't really a baby'. Whether you lose a baby through a chemical pregnancy, BO or a later miscarriage we all feel the loss of the possibility of our babies and BO pregnancies all started off as embryos like any other pregnancy, the difference is our babies are 'lost' much earlier in the development process.
Big hugs to all of you going through this or who have faced this very difficult situation
I hate it when people ask if the drs can fix you....its like miscarriage is very common and im not broken until I dont have a uterus! I have two uteri so I do become offended with ppl that try blame my body and ask if I can get one taken out! why would I want to decrease my chances if becoming a mother by removing one of my uteri. Ahhhhh ppl make me mad
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Glitter Girl I think you were in the September thread with me. Sorry to hear you are also going through a hard time.
I went for my dating scan about 3 weeks ago. I was suppose to be around 7 weeks but they couldn't see a yolk sac or baby. They thought my dates were a bit off but I had a bad feeling something was wrong. We have been trying to get pregnant for quite some time and this was our first pregnancy. To cut a long story short 3 weeks of tests have followed. Hcg levels continued to rise, symptoms continued, sac grew at the correct rate. Just had another scan at what should have been 10 weeks.... Still nothing in the sac but it has started to slow in growth. The last three weeks have been absolute torture. I hate people being so sympathetic and trying to make me feel better. Now I am just trying to wait for a natural miscarriage but I am not sure how long it will take. It is really hard when you still feel pregnant.
Thank you to everyone sharing their stories. Sending hugs to you all
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