Well a further update - just called to check on her as she's going home today. Asked about the b/f and everything is really good. She said the midwives have shown her several different positions and been very helpful and positive.
BUT she was still offered another night of f/f last night if she wanted a full nights sleep before going home?! Now as lovely and tempting as this sounds, I just don't get it myself.
Am I allowed to mention hospital? Mods please delete if not appropriate - it's Epworth Freemasons.
Wow epworth Freemasons is where I birthed both my boys and had the complete opposite experience. Maybe it was a discussion between your friend and the midwives
People who judge us for wanting someone to 'babysit' our babies are also the type of people who will go on about how 'it takes a village' etc.
we can't win in the west can we? We get told that in other cultures it takes a village, then get told we should do it all on our own with no help, and just suck it up.
I'm not referring to anything you said op.
I birthed twice at epworth Freemasons too and completely different experience. Midwives checked dilation nearly as soon as I arrived, heart rate monitor popped on immediately but i think they asked my permission first, and offered gas first then pethadine then epidural. I felt like the midwife on duty that night wasn't too caring though, all she did was check the monitors. Hardly any words of encouragement or expressed any concern.
And plenty of help with breastfeeding. No objection when I asked for formula (so I could catch a couple hours sleep), but otherwise plenty of support for breastfeeding.
They're quite 'generous' with pain killers though (i had emergency Caesar for ds1, then planned Caesar ds2) but I did need them and it helped with rooming in.
I hadn't spelt out upfront to them either that these were my wishes, so assumed that this was their general attitude towards all.
I'm not suggesting for a minute the hospital has done anything 'wrong', there will be hundreds of ladies with positive experiences there. In fact my friend isn't complaining either, as she knew no different, so all good
I guess I just had such a complete different experience, that I wondered which was more 'normal' or standard.
Some women do decline checks for dilation too though I've now learnt through here (not that my friend did), whereas I thought it was 'standard' when I birthed DS1 so didn't think anything of it when they asked!
That is all so sad I birthed at a private hospital and had a natural birth, no drugs, breast fed with absolutely no formula offered (I would decline anyway!!) and bubba never left my side! In fact it was hospital policy that the baby stays with a parent at all times. I find it so sad the way c-sections are just given so easily. It's good your friend is happy with the care she received though! But yes I think it's very odd. I'd be horrified if that was me.
I birthed also at a private hospital, told them didn't want interference and they were fine, very supportive of natural birth. I asked for gas and used it for an hour until pushing.
No offer of epi. I was checked but only twice through whole thing. They knew where I was at by listening to me, last few Centimeters were quite quick so grunting gave it away and nurse called OB without even checking me.
Breastfeeding was not just supported but solely encouraged, no mention of formula once and I had issues at first.
Rooming in was only option, night angels helped settle DD at night when we were struggling (just new parents without a clue).
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