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    How sad

    I don't buy into the happy mum crap in this case sorry (unless she actually asked for those things) what happens when she finds out things could of been so much more healthy for her and her baby?
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    Default Does this sound 'normal' to you?

    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    How sad

    I don't buy into the happy mum crap in this case sorry (unless she actually asked for those things) what happens when she finds out things could of been so much more healthy for her and her baby?
    Believe it or not, some women actually aren't too fussed about the actual birth. To them, a healthy baby IS the most important thing, and the birth is just a small step on the journey. I know you don't feel that way, but it is not impossible that others do.

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    Default Does this sound 'normal' to you?

    Doesn't sound normal to me...

    I had DS at a private hospital in Melbourne, obviously not the same one as my experience was;

    Midwife advised me to let her know if at any time I wanted any pain relief otherwise she would not mention it again.

    At no point was I offered an epi or any specific pain relief. Other than her mentioning options when I arrived and explaining I could request any if/ when I needed it.

    They basically let me get on with it and just checked in on me every couple of hours to check progress until it was time to push.

    Rooming in was expected unless there was some issue in which case they'd offer the nursery option.

    Midwives were there to assist with every latch on until you were comfortable doing it on your own and even then there was a bf room open all hours with a LC in their from 6am-7pm every day to give any one on one bf assistance that was needed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 4underfour View Post
    Believe it or not, some women actually aren't too fussed about the actual birth. To them, a healthy baby IS the most important thing, and the birth is just a small step on the journey. I know you don't feel that way, but it is not impossible that others do.
    Excuse me but I DID say unless she actually wanted all of those things

    and I just wanted to add that I do want a healthy baby too but thanks for insinuating it's not important to me.
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    Yeah, not my experience in my private hospital. I was encouraged to have a natural birth, was checked for dilation before having an epi (presumably to see I wasn't in early stages because it can stall labour apparently), when DD's heartrate was tachycardic they monitored it and then we ended up using forceps to rotate her to avoid a caesarean, was encouraged to have skin to skin and breastfeed immediately and to continue breastfeeding. No one suggested formula at any point. They did occasionally take her for a couple of hours occasionally so I could have a nap, but that would be between 2-4am etc and then back for feed.

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    Default Does this sound 'normal' to you?

    I was told by my ob that an epi before 5cm on a 1st time mum usually means cs eventually.

    That scenario is odd - I went private too and other than having a mw list the pain relief available the rest didn't happen. My hospy did have night nannies but they were only for 2hrs max. Babies in the nursery is anti BF.

    That ob and hospy sound daft.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smallpotatoes View Post
    Yeah, not my experience in my private hospital. I was encouraged to have a natural birth, was checked for dilation before having an epi (presumably to see I wasn't in early stages because it can stall labour apparently), when DD's heartrate was tachycardic they monitored it and then we ended up using forceps to rotate her to avoid a caesarean, was encouraged to have skin to skin and breastfeed immediately and to continue breastfeeding. No one suggested formula at any point. They did occasionally take her for a couple of hours occasionally so I could have a nap, but that would be between 2-4am etc and then back for feed.
    This minus the tachy bub! No one suggested formula even when I was feeding every 30-45min!!

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    Default Does this sound 'normal' to you?

    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    Excuse me but I DID say unless she actually wanted all of those things

    and I just wanted to add that I do want a healthy baby too but thanks for insinuating it's not important to me.
    Sorry I didn't mean to insinuate you didn't want a healthy baby.

    Why did she have to WANT an emergency CS to be ok and happy with her birth though? Not many people want an emerg CS but they can still be fine about it though.

    Anyway, didn't want this to be an argument. So I'm sorry, I really wasn't trying to put down your choices, just say that some people don't care that much about the actual birth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4underfour View Post
    Sorry I didn't mean to insinuate you didn't want a healthy baby.

    Why did she have to WANT an emergency CS to be ok and happy with her birth though? Not many people want an emerg CS but they can still be fine about it though.

    Anyway, didn't want this to be an argument. So I'm sorry, I really wasn't trying to put down your choices, just say that some people don't care that much about the actual birth.
    I really love it when people are happy with their birth choices (I really really really am) but I have met many women who in hindsight realize that they made uninformed choices. Now I don't give 2 hoots if she is happy with her choices I think it is awesome but I would be very sad if she discovered that those things were unnecessary (if they were) AND felt sad about it.

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    Default Does this sound 'normal' to you?

    I certainly agree with that. In fact, if I was better informed my first birth and my twin birth would have been very different. I must have misunderstood your first post, I thought you were saying she definitely wouldn't be happy with that birth when she looked back on it.


 

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