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    Perhaps her reasons for having a c section or choosing formula were personal and she didn't want to share them with you. I know after the birth of my first child I had so many people commenting and wanting to know the reason behind my c section. Quite frankly I didn't think it anyone's business and made up some stupid reason about high blood pressure or something which wasn't the truth.

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    I asked about the epi today (being induced Monday) and was told you can get it at any time up until about 1/2 hr before birth. You don't need to be a certain number of cm. But she did say that it can slow down the process, but so can stress, panick and anxiety.

    The rest does seem odd.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DairyfreeDiva View Post
    Perhaps her reasons for having a c section or choosing formula were personal and she didn't want to share them with you. I know after the birth of my first child I had so many people commenting and wanting to know the reason behind my c section. Quite frankly I didn't think it anyone's business and made up some stupid reason about high blood pressure or something which wasn't the truth.
    Actually no, I didn't ask a thing, she was very forthcoming with this info, wanting to know how similar it was to mine.

    Thanks everyone for your experiences. Yes she's very happy so there are no complaints there

    She didn't do any research prior at all, some of the questions I used to get were quite alarming (especially for a well educated 40yr old!). But in the end it's probably been to her advantage with no expectations.

    I'm just surprised that their 'standard' practice was to take the baby EVERY night without asking, he was apparently quite settled too. It wasn't just the first night.

    Again the formula was offered, not requested, which I didn't think was common practice anymore - especially when she was already b/f with no issues.

    It's interesting to know that all hospitals are different I guess!

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    Quote Originally Posted by wannawannabe View Post
    That sounds pretty standard/normal for a private hospital to me sorry!!!

    <img src="images/smilies/smile.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Smile" smilieid="1" class="inlineimg" <img src="images/smilies/smile.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Smile" smilieid="1" class="inlineimg" each to their own.
    I think this is a bit of a generalization. I went private for DS and my experience was nothing like this! There was no mention at all of an epidural or any intervention whatsoever. Rooming in was standard and encouraged, and I would have had to jump through about a million hoops to give my bubba any formula. I realize that I was lucky that my birth progressed well and I could have a natural delivery, but not all private hospitals are intervention crazy!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kooglekat View Post
    I think this is a bit of a generalization. I went private for DS and my experience was nothing like this! There was no mention at all of an epidural or any intervention whatsoever. Rooming in was standard and encouraged, and I would have had to jump through about a million hoops to give my bubba any formula. I realize that I was lucky that my birth progressed well and I could have a natural delivery, but not all private hospitals are intervention crazy!
    Yes! This was my exact experience with a different private hospital in Melb. I guess that's why I was surprised.

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    I went private and my experience was nothing like that. They did offer to take bub for one night in the nursery so I could recover, and the midwife hand expressed colostrum to feed bub via syringe overnight. It was fantastic and I have heard some real horror stories from the public hospital here so I guess there are good and bad in every type of hospital

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    Quote Originally Posted by wannawannabe View Post
    That sounds pretty standard/normal for a private hospital to me sorry!!!

    It's the complete opposite at the public hospital I work at!!!

    Perhaps OB doesn't trust the midwives to check dilation properly?

    If I'd been her midwife....
    offered VE on arrival to check dilation, wouldn't have forced it if she declined. Depending how well she looked like she was coping (in control vs severely distressed I would offer pain relief or if she requested pain relief arrange for that. If she wanted an epidural (which she did) I would request to do a check just to make sure that she's not actually 10cm and we're going have a baby before the an anaesthetist gets there to do said epidural.

    I don't get to make decisions on if or when a Caesar happens. Also a drop in heartbeat could be a drop to 80bpm for 5 minutes (start making a move for theatre) or to 100bpm for a minute in which case you'd keep an eye on it.

    I wouldn't offer formula for nights, unless the mother requested and even then it's my duty of care to inform her of the effects that comp feeding overnight could have on her supply etc. The hospital I work at requires a consent form to be signed to give formula which goes down a treat at 3am, let me tell you.

    We also don't have a night nursery due to BFHI accreditation and tbh your taking that baby home in 2-4 days. Welcome to being woken through the night. If baby is really unsettled (baby that screamed for 10 hours straight on my last lot of nights of I'm looking at you) and depending on my workload ill offer to take baby for an hour or so and cuddle him whilst writing notes etc.

    however sounds like she's very happy, and all those reasons are why some people choose private because that's what they want each to their own.
    ^ this
    Pretty much how my the midwives did things with me.
    I loved them, they had some great advise during labour but also still made me feel in control when I said I wanted something different.

    I ended up having an emergency c-sec due to cord prolapse but all good healthy baby was born and the after care they have me was amazing.

    I didn't have a birth anything like your friend, I was public though.
    However a few nights of bub in the nursery sounds nice

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    Quote Originally Posted by mousky View Post
    I asked about the epi today (being induced Monday) and was told you can get it at any time up until about 1/2 hr before birth. You don't need to be a certain number of cm. But she did say that it can slow down the process, but so can stress, panick and anxiety.

    The rest does seem odd.
    Epi did the opposite for me, I was going into shock it felt like, vomiting constantly and shaking. As soon as epi kicked in I went from 4 cm to 10 in half an hour. midwife said that It happens like that sometimes

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    Wish they offered to take my bubs to the nursery occasionally . Those first few nights are tough especially when dh is home with the other kids. The midwives at the private hospy I went to told me under no circumstances would they take baby to the nursery unless they were unwell. Even when I was struggling with newborn twins. Think the nightshift middies were too busy checking fb on the computer lol.

    I don't see a problem with the epi being offered early. I also don't see why they had to check dilation. It's pretty obvious to a midwife if someone is in transition (so maybe too late for an epi) or not in labour at all. I had an epi at 2cm with my first and my labour progressed beautifully. The other flip side that I see too often is when mums come in, ask for an epi and the midwives try to scare them into not having it at all, or in some cases with my friends, actually refuse to call the anaesthetist.

    We won't know the whole story about the CS, it could have been unnecessary, or maybe the hr was starting to drop dangerously and it was actually required.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4underfour View Post

    We won't know the whole story about the CS, it could have been unnecessary, or maybe the hr was starting to drop dangerously and it was actually required.
    Oh absolutely, I wasn't suggesting that it wasn't required. I just questioned the casual way he apparently recommended it, when there were no issues made known to my friend prior.

    Also the c/s didn't happen for another 2.5hrs later - so surely if the h/r was that concerning it would happen straight away?? I don't know, just my assumption which could be wrong, I'm no doctor!


 

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