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    Default Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    Haven't read the whole thread but I'm 100% with you OP. Just the mere words 'baby shower' on an invite makes me cringe - I read it as 'shower us with gifts'. If it's not about the gifts then just call it a morning tea or lunch or afternoon tea or whatever! But the words 'baby shower'.... arrrghhhh, makes me want to run far, far away.

    A friend of mine was quite determined to organise one for me. Luckily my best friend got word of it and put a stop to it as she knew I really didn't like the idea of them. I did have a brunch at a cafe with my closest friends 2 weeks before DS was due but that was it. No gifts - just a last chance for me to enjoy my friend's company before DS arrived. Those who wanted to give gifts came and gave them to me after DS was born which was great and very much appreciated.

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    Default Re: Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    I never had a baby shower and never will. I dont see the point its like everyone can come and say congrats and give presents play games and hardly talk to the mum to be as she busy with everyone else. Id rather catch up over a cafe meal have a great chat with no more than 3 people at a time

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    Default Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    I don't like the idea of them because they seem like pure present grabbing all too often, like you said in the op.

    I guess I see them as different from a bday party etc as people are expected to buy a baby shower gift, then another gift when the baby is born a few weeks later.

    I had a brunch with friends before baby number one was born, no presents allowed . But I'm weird, I won't allow people to bring presents to our kids bday parties either.

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    Default Re: Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    Quote Originally Posted by 4underfour View Post
    I don't like the idea of them because they seem like pure present grabbing all too often, like you said in the op.

    I guess I see them as different from a bday party etc as people are expected to buy a baby shower gift, then another gift when the baby is born a few weeks later.

    I had a brunch with friends before baby number one was born, no presents allowed . But I'm weird, I won't allow people to bring presents to our kids bday parties either.
    I don't think that's always the case. The people who brought me gifts for my baby shower for DS1 didn't buy another gift when he was born and I most certainly didn't expect them to.

    I think part of the problem seems to be that people feel they are expected to buy presents etc, not the person who the shower is for expecting presents from everyone.

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    Default Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    I don't think that's always the case. The people who brought me gifts for my baby shower for DS1 didn't buy another gift when he was born and I most certainly didn't expect them to.

    I think part of the problem seems to be that people feel they are expected to buy presents etc, not the person who the shower is for expecting presents from everyone.

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    That's interesting. I couldn't think of visiting a new baby without taking a present! Ha. Everyone is different arent they.

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    Default Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    I definitely didn't have one for the presents. I despise pewter photo frames, teeth boxes and tacky "My first..." items. No offence to anyone, it's just not my taste.

    I don't care how many baby showers a person has. I can't say I have ever judged someone for having more than one. Do people actually care?

    They are a great excuse to catch up with girlfriends, eat and laugh.

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    Default Re: Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    I hate them. I refused to have one for either of my bubs tho my friends wanted to organise it for me. I never organised one for a friend tho because she wanted it. And I had to go. A bunch of women who are strangers sitting around playing dumb games, sorry really not my cup of tea. I find them so awkward and forced.
    Can anyone tell me what happens with presents? Do you never to give one at the shower and another after the birth? Or just one at the shower? What's the norm?

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    I have a friend say that when she has kids, she's going to refuse having a baby shower because she won't like any of the cheap crap everyone gives, so won't be bothering.! Um, nice attitude, NOT! I thought it's the thought that counts... but anyway, each to their own.

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    Default Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    I guess at the end of the day, if you don't like them don't participate.

    To be honest it's only on bubhub that I've seen this attitude to baby showers. Most people I know love buying presents for friends babies and making cupcakes to bring along. It's about celebrating a new baby and your friend. You can spend $10 or $50 or just bring a plate of food, it doesn't matter. It's not about the gifts.

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    Default Baby shower spin off- am I the only one that doesn't agree?

    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    I have a friend say that when she has kids, she's going to refuse having a baby shower because she won't like any of the cheap crap everyone gives, so won't be bothering.! Um, nice attitude, NOT! I thought it's the thought that counts... but anyway, each to their own.
    Wow that's rude. I love and appreciate anything given to me and hardly think it's cheap and nasty


 

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