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    Default Would you write a list of things NOT to do?

    DH and I are going on a work trip in July for 2 weeks and will be leaving the kids with his MIL and SIL (they live together with 5 kids all 10 years and above).
    DS will be 2.5 years and DD will be 9 months.
    The more I think about the trip the more I worry. It will be in July probably the peak flu season, what if they get sick because there's so many kids in the house, what if they don't eat, what if SIL takes them out and DS goes missing, what if MIL takes DS to the front yard with no gate and DS runs into the street. I am so paranoid and so worried!
    We leave the kids with them at least once a week and so far everything's been ok. But there's a few things we don't like and we have brought it up many times but doesn't seem to make a difference. Eg no chocolate or too much sugary snack, no running in the front yard because there's no gate and DS doesn't understand no running on to the road yet or stranger danger, no kisses on the lips for the kids in the house and etc.
    Is it ok to write a list of things NOT to do for SIL and MIL? Will they be offended? What would you do?

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    No, I wouldn't ever do that. If I couldn't trust someone to look after my babies without a million different instructions then I wouldn't be leaving them.

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    No, that would be terribly insulting. Especially seeing as they are parents themselves.

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    Default Would you write a list of things NOT to do?

    No- if they're doing a good job of looking after the 5 kids they have, I'm sure they'll be fine with yours as well.

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    Default Would you write a list of things NOT to do?

    No I wouldn't. If I didn't think they'd be able to handle common sense issues such illness, supervision and diet, then I wouldn't be leaving my children with them to begin with.

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    probably not, but could you say 'things to consider'?

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    Default Would you write a list of things NOT to do?

    Quote Originally Posted by acerbaby View Post
    probably not, but could you say 'things to consider'?
    Sorry but I think that sounds really condescending!

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    Default Would you write a list of things NOT to do?

    We left our 3 children, 6, 4 and 18 months with the MIL last April for 2 weeks. MIL flew over from the other side of the country and only sees the children once or twice a year.

    We left lists of things they eat, times they sleep but didn't put anything NOT to do.

    She was doing us a favour and I wouldn't have let her look after my babies if I didn't trust her explicitly.

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    Default Would you write a list of things NOT to do?

    Quote Originally Posted by Uniquey View Post
    No, I wouldn't write a list of things not to do, but I would write a letter to say thank you for having my children for 2 weeks.
    Lol yes, a thank you letter would be far more appropriate I think!

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    No, I would never write a list of things not to do, but I would write a letter saying 'thank you for having my children for 2 weeks'.

    I don't know your MIL or SIL, but I personally would find it offensive if someone wrote me a similar list.

    If it were me, I wouldn't leave my kids with that many worries and thoughts running through my head enough to want to write a list, it would simply be futile and I would spend the whole woek trip fretting and freaking.
    If I couldn't go away for 2 weeks and accept the fact that others are going to make decisions and act in a way they see fit with my kids, then I honestly would have to forgo the work trip or ask someone else to mind them.
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