My nine year old daughter just spent 10 days at her fathers house in a different state, it's the first time she has been and he has come to see her in my state 4 times for 2 days at a time since she was 18 months. I let her go because she wanted to spend time with him and adores his mother. He lives with his gf of 12 months and her kids, a girl aged 5 and a boy aged 11 and has his 6 yr old son sometimes. The entire time she was there he and his girlfriend just hung out in their bedroom leaving the kids unsupervised, made the 11 yr old and my daughter make lunch for the little ones, the house had smashed windows and they don't live in a good area, my daughters father washed his 5 yr old stepdaughters mouth out with soap! There were spiderwebs and spiders everywhere :-( she spent 2 nights with her grandmother which she loved but she asked her dad to stay too and he wouldn't because he wouldnt leave his gf. Only the 6 yr old boy was allowed in the adults bedroom ( seemed a bit strange to me). I'm wondering what others make of all this? Would u be contacting welfare in relation to it all? I'm concerned for the 5 yr old :-( oh and my daughter came home with nits and said the 5 yr old had them and told her. I'm who didn't do anything :-/ am I over reacting?