It's so good that you understand where he is at right now. That's one of the hardest things.
Sometimes or best friendships are people that we have been attracted too. I think that sometimes the instant pull is an indication that they have a role in our lives. Sometimes as a partner, sometimes as a companion or friend.
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I was in a similar situation years ago, complete with the manipulative nasty ex. To cut a long story short, we went our separate ways. I moved to the other end of the state and while we still talked occasionally, we had minimal contact for the first 5 or 6 months (it just hurt too much). After that we really couldn't stay away from each other and started talking a lot more and after another 6 months or so we ended up together again. We've been together for 6 years now and 3 kids together, and really couldn't be much happier.
Good luck. It's probably one of the hardest things I've had to do, but it really was for the best in my situation.
I am glad you are feeling better!
It sounds like you have thought it all through. Just remember you can take it a day at a time. Nothing is set in stone. As much as you would like to remain friends it can be hard to get 'over' someone that way and it may cause you more pain but you will know what is best for you.
Thanks ladies. Having just a slight moment of weakness just now. Nothing huge just have a sudden urge to text for no reason. Just cos we normally do. So much self restraint required!!!
Eekkkk know that feeling all too well!! You should write yourself a list of things to do if you get the urge ie send a sms to a friend instead!!
Just wondering how you are getting on now?
Hey there Well I realised it was too difficult to be friends with him when I actually cared about him so I'm avoiding contact at the moment. I've found it quite easy this time because I realised that it was actually hurting me a bit. Out of sight out of mind seems to work so well for me. Plus my life rolls so much better without all the drama from his ex.
Had a bit of a pregnancy scare though (as we still DTD a bit hence the not being able to be friends thing). But thankfully I think that's behind me ... After a few neg tests.
I'm just going to get on with my own life and if we happen to cross paths again in the future so be it.
How are things going with you??
You sound so in control of your emotions and your life!! Well done!! Ekkk about the pregnancy scare though!!
I am still with my partner and things have been as good as they can be. We are keeping a low profile by not involving our children in our relationship too much at the moment, as to avoid more drama with his ex. This will just be the case until their divorce/settlement has gone through which is underway now. He has been reassuring and we are still seeing each other around 3 times a week and the other time I am working on bettering my life (ie reading books about my insecurities and going to try and live a healthier lifestyle exercise etc)
We are both feeling positive about our future, time will tell.
I'm not really in control of my emotions at all
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