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    All good now :-)
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    Hi guys. I think I thought that starting IVF would be the answer but of course, after unsuccessful attempts it just brings up more issues around what happens if it doesn't work. I am lucky on the DH front, he is totally supportive. The relationship issues are as a result of my fears for our future. DH has a DD so doesn't fully understand how all this effects me. When I tell him that if we can't have a child I'm not sure how I will ever find a purpose in my life, he doesn't get it.

    Veritas - sorry to hear of your current situation. Sounds like your DP needs to have a good think about what she's got and what she wants. And you need to keep hold of your ultimate goal and if she can't be part of the team towards achieving it, and brings everyone down, then you are better off going it alone.

    Meshell - it is nice to hear that DH was able to have such a change of heart.

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    The only concern I would have is the parentage of the child.If you entered IVF as a couple but continue on your own, will - when the child is born - your ex-partner still be considered a parent to the child, or will you be considered a solo parent. (I am assuming your DP isn't genetically related to the potential child so that part isn't an issue, but being part of the process when entering IVF may be enough to be legally assumed a parent.)I think this needs to be discussed with your fertility specialist.
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    Sorry to read hun IVF is such a strain financially and emotionally I can imagine this is quite common! for you xx

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    Veritas, I am sorry you are going through this. IVF is an emotionally and physically challenging process, and the emotional toll starts from the moment your doctor tells you that you need to consider it let alone when you actually start a cycle. I don't think any relationship survives IVF without stress and strain. Encourage your DP to go to counselling on her own and with you as well. Hopefully the IVF process will help you move to a stronger place in your relationship as you face this hurdle together. Everyone deals with it differently and if there are personal issues already present it will magnify them!
    Hope it all works out for you.


 

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