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    Just wondering what others think

    My neighbours have two kids, aged about 4 and 2.5 I would guess.

    Sometimes when one of the children gets in "big" trouble for something they will be locked out the backyard. Then the child will stand at the door crying (sounding very distressed). One of the parents will come to the door and let the child back in within about 5 minutes.

    Now my parents used to do time out as well, but taking it to timeout outside is extreme to me. I also personally think it inconsiderate to neighbours when your living in inner city housing ie terrace houses, apartments etc. my hubby got very upset the first time we heard it as he thought the child had been hurt or was alone/lost.

    Just interested to see what others think - as a yet-to-be parent maybe I'm overreacting or misinterpreting?

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    Not something I would ever consider doing!!

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    Default Do you think this is acceptable?

    I send the kids outside to play when they're driving me crazy but would never lock them out! Time outs are in our spare room.

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    No I don't think that's acceptable at all. Yuck that makes me really sad, I think that's horrible.

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    Does it happen often? I would hate to see it and never do it but could it be the parents are at the end of their tether and nothing else is working ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by waterlily View Post
    Not something I would ever consider doing!!
    Me either.

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    I have shut the door on DS2 outside before because he wouldn't stop being silly inside despite my best efforts to involve them in something else, I 1-2-3 magic-ed them outside. IMO it's no different to sending them to a different room inside and having them be upset there.

    Eta. we can see each other through the door.

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    I wouldn't do it as punishment and not that young, but I send my daughters outside to sort out their issues when they're fighting. They are 8 & 10, but I've probably been doing it for 3 years or so. They knock when they've stopped fighting and they can come back in.

    I feel sorry for the kids in question but if the alternative is the parent losing it its probably the better option, although not optimal.

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    To the people who think it's not nice, how is it any different to sending a child to time out in a room?

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    To the people who think it's not nice, how is it any different to sending a child to time out in a room?
    I would, and do, use timeout, but in a bedroom or hallway. It seems quite different to shut them outside, ESP that young. I imagine a little child would be feeling scared as hell knowing they couldn't get back in, as opposed to sitting on the step/in the corner/on the bed. IMO, a child in timeout would be more likely to consider why they were there, as opposed to one locked outside who may be overwhelmed with panic, fear and feelings of rejection. Seems counterproductive.

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