Would love your opinion on a subject DH and I can't agree on. We have 3 kids, all of the births were emergency c/s. All traumatic and long posterior labours.
I am almost 49 yo, and after having our 3rd child and being told that the doctors thought my uterus had ruptured and that baby was distressed and that they would like consent to remove my uterus. I come out of GA to find my baby has survived ( thank God!), that my uterus was not removed, but stitched back together and it was paper thin and very hard to repair.
Unsure why it wasn't removed.
My husband and I were then informed that I must never become pregnant again. It would be life threatening for me. My uterus is too damaged to hold another baby.
My husband agrees with the doctor that he should have a vasectomy to ensure that this could never happen.
I foolishly believed him.
Now it will be 3 years in April, and he refuses to have the vasectomy.
I feel so hurt by this, because I had 3 major operations so that we could have our children. My life was threatened by these operations and he can't even have 1 minor operation to ensure my life isn't threatened again!
I just can't believe the selfishness of this!
I would like some other opinions on this please.
No I'm not menopausal, I am very much still fertile every month. Still ovulating. I don't think it should be up to me to provide contraception, especially as he agreed to have the vasectomy.
No sex until vasectomy? An ultimatum??