I think you mentioned that you were going to start to keep a record of your day. I would highly recommend this and it helped to keep me sane when I couldn't work things out. I always found there was a pattern to our days, like longer sleep am and shorter afternoons etc.
I would also ditch the books with specific timed routines as I think they cause more stress than they are worth. If you need to follow a routine a simple pattern of feed/play/sleep should be enough to keep you sane without the stress.