Please help me, my almost 12 month old DS has always been a terrible sleeper from a few weeks old, but just keeps hitting new lows and i can't take it anymore. He has now started waking every half hour or so through the night, looking for boob to get back to sleep, and screams and cries if it's not available every time, or if i put him back into his sleep position.
He also doesn't sleep on his back, so if he rolls onto his back he cries, but when i try to roll him back on his tum he screams and struggles and i have to forcibly hold him down and heavily pat for maybe 30 seconds until he calms down then goes back to sleep.
The no cry sleep solution worked for a few nights, and did improve his day sleeps, but nights are just awful. I have another baby due in a few months and I'm already running on empty, i don't know how long before i break down and won't be able to get up again
He doensn't have any medical issues like reflux or gas, he has been to a pediatric chiropractor who helped with constipation but said his sleep cant be helped by chiro. We have tried every herbal sleep inducer to no avail. We have bed shared since birth. He is a great eater so isn't hungry, isn't cold or hot, and simply does not settle for his father, who wouldn't help out over night anyway. We can't afford to go over east to a gentle sleep school, or even have a sleep specialist out to the house.
I don't know if my emotional state i could even attempt to let him cry but i think i am out of options and the alternative that i could break down or hurt him is terrifying. I'm creating a plan to night wean but since he sometimes rejects boob upon waking i don't know how much difference that will make.
Has anyone had a similar high need sleeper, and managed to help them sleep through at least one sleep cycle? Please help, I'm desperate and need help and any other options than CC.