Would adoption be an option?
Would adoption be an option?
I hope today might have helped you sil a bit. Firstly I will say that she needs to speak to her prescribing doctor about her situation ASAP. Firstly because it can have health implications to take some medications while pregnant. Secondly, her anxiety and any other mental health issues need to be monitored.
This really is going to be a tough one. As you have said, there is a probability that she will have issues with whichever decision she makes.
I personally have been in a similar situation to your sil and I can tell you that I had a terrible time afterward (I chose to terminate) and still feel devastated at times and regret my choice. I wish i had not done it usually. Then there are times that I am thankful that I have the life I have now, which would not have been possible had I chosen differently.
This, however, is not going to be true for everyone. Sadly, it is a situation that rarely has a simple happy ending. Your SIL needs to know what she wants, and be prepared that there will probably be hard times no matter which way she goes.
Best of luck.
She has decided to terminate, and is booked in next week.
She has requested that the procedure is not explained to her (as she doesn't want to know what's actually going to happen)
*Sigh* Once again I'm worrying about her!
Anyway thanks again
Best of luck and bigs hugs.
I hope all works out for the best. She is very lucky to have you there supporting her and in the end as long as she is happy with the decision that is what is most important.
I hope you are coping well and not under too much stress, it is not really a nice situation for anyone to need to worry about.
Where did she find the funding for the termanation if u don't mind me asking? I think going in blind is a mistake but what more can you do? You sound frustrated too hugs
Hope she doesn't regret it for the rest of her life
Once it's done, it's done. Can't go back.
Maybe if she knew more about the procedure she wouldn't do it.
Her choice, I know.
Just that a lot of women regret it.
OP your sil will do the right thing for her and shouldn't feel pressure either way. At the end of the day she just needs to look at two options: baby or no baby. The nitty gritty details are sometimes not important when achieving the final outcome.
Please understand this is a public parent forum so some members can't even imagine being in the situation your sil is in and making the decision she is. That doesn't mean what she is right or wrong, it just means they are on a different life journey.
It really is up to her and the councillor to discuss, maybe look at getting a councillor for after too.
Big hugs, you seem like you have been an amazing support to her.
Hi op, poor thing what a tricky situation. Have more sessions been arranged for her for after? Also how old is the father? Does he need to talk to anyone? How is he coping?
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