What a beautiful sister you are .
I have no advice except that any decision your sister makes is the right one as long as it's hers, and it's fully informed.
I really feel for her and for you, and hope you all find a resolution quickly.
I found out at 8 weeks and I was really really shocked and horrified, no amount of looking at what development the fetus was up to at that gestation would of made me change my mind all it would of done was made me feel guilty I didn't know sooner. I don't think it's a good idea to persuade a woman into motherhood because she found out late her contraception had failed her.
Please don't try to persuade her into anything, let the professionals do their job
I can actually relate to the other side of that issue. I had a termination when I was 15 (8 weeks) and just felt more guilty and devastated as time went on and I learned more about the situation. It has really affected me even more now than at the time, when I was not as we'll informed. I am full of regret at times and wish someone had given me the above advice at the time when I needed it.
I agree completely about letting the counsellors do their job for your sister. This needs to be 100% her choice. They will help guide her through this.
For the record I would never condone pressuring or persuading a woman to keep an unwanted baby. You quoted me so I wasn't sure if you thought that's what I was insinuating or not HOF.
Last edited by waterlily; 13-01-2013 at 16:30.
It always worries me that some people do need to make a decision on such short notice where things could definitely be 'rushed' since I had plenty of time and still think I hadn't come to terms with the whole thing.
I miscarried when I was 16 and with my exbf. It was a horrible time and I had noone to turn to. My ex and I had discussed unplanned pregnancies in case it happened and I knew his position on the subject (he went as far as he would actually allow someone to kick me in the stomach if that should be what I wanted ) I knew he would make a good dad someday without a doubt but we were too young. I drank a heap of vodka and things took care of themselves although I would have only been 5w max. I still regret it to this day and sometimes wonder what life would be like if I had the baby now. Its too late now for me but its fantastic how far you are willing to go to support her.
I think only she can make the right choice for her. She needs to really think about what an abortion will mean. If it is a hard choice for her to make either way then if she goes through with the abortion she will always have it in the back of her mind.
My story has a happy ending. Yes I lost my baby as a teen, but now I am 20, married to a fantastic man and 23 weeks pregnant with twin girls. I do wonder if us being blessed with twins is that same baby coming through to me again but we will never know.
All the best xx
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