I was allowed 1 panadol every 6-hours post-caesarean. I am not kidding. That wouldn't even cut it for the most mild of headaches for me! But it's all they'd give me if I was breastfeeding. Was very irritating indeed!
I was totally drugged up, but didn't feel too hazy at the time. Only now when I think back to some phone conversations do I realise how trashed I was No wonder the midwives kept on reminding me about dangers of sids and bed sharing
I ff and we have always shared child rearing. It's one of the bonuses I guess, he can help sterilise the bottles, gives the kids a bottle. Do a night feed.
As to pain killers for c/s, with my first they gave my morphine but I refused it beyond day one bc I was worried about it being in my milk. Second birth I just had Digesic. I handled the pain much better that time and it was enough for me. I was never refused pain relief with either child and I was bfing DD and fully pumping with DS.
I'll start off by saying that I was offered whatever pain relief that was necessary after both deliveries despite BFing both bubs. First time around I had nurofen (or voltaren or something), panadol & digesic and that was enough (bad 3rd degree tear). 2nd time around Digesic had gone out of fashion , but I was offered regular panadol & voltaren (I'm allergic to pethidine, tramadol & codeine) ... they offered endone, but it was likely I was allergic to that too, so I avoided it, but didn't need it thankfully.
As for division of duties, well BFing has to do that to some extent. There's no point in both parents being up for an overnight feed and my ds & dd both settled quite easily in my arms after an o/n feed, it would have unsettled them to hand them over after each feed to my dh for settling. It was an immense relief to stop BFing my ds at 12 months so I could hand over the overnight duties fully. I night weaned my dd at 14 months, but as I'm not working much & dh has been working A LOT (including lots of driving) since I night weaned her, I've ended up doing a fair bit of overnight stuff anyway.
But, my dh still very much shares the care of our kids, doing a huge amount. BFing means that I need to be around for most feeds, but otherwise there's a huge amount of time in the day & night where BFing or FFing makes no difference whatsoever.
Also, I was told that the pain killers I was having in hospital were ok while it was just the colostrum as colostrum is produced in pregnancy.
I had no pain relief when I came home.
Last edited by BigRedV; 11-01-2013 at 20:03.
I didn't read the link, but to answer the question- yes, in MY experience it did impact on the division of labour. I am very strongly pro-breastfeeding and love breastfeeding my kids, in fact I feel blessed that I am the one the 'gets' to do it. However, when my DD was born, I feel the fact I was bf, and therefore responsible for feeding her, sort of led to the assumption that I was responsible for everything else. I don't see any point in my partner getting up in the middle of the night if I can feed so obviously that was my job, I would need to take her everywhere with me since I was feeding her, and it just kind of flowed from there. Of course, if I wanted my partner to do something child-related or domestic, I can ask him and *most* of the time he'll do it (eventually), but this in itself still implies that its *my* responsibility and that he's 'helping' me do *my* job, which in itself is an unequal division of labour.
So yeah, I think bf can often lead to men assuming that the woman is more responsible for the house and kids than he is. In traditionSl societies this would not be such a big problem as the men would have their own explicit responsibilities, however in the west often women get lumped with the house, kids AND paid work.
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