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    Default Does feeding method really impact on division of labour?

    I wish the domestic work was divided! I do everything, including feeding DS (boob and bottle).

    But to be fair, DF works two jobs so I guess it's unfair of me to expect more from him?

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    I know when DD was born my partner's attitude was that looking after the house was now "my job" since I was on maternity leave. How awesome would that be -your partner having a baby means you get more leisure time??!!

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    I didn't do more feeding breastfeeding than not. I still had to do it all... and it was actually more work for me with bottlefeeding because even if he DID do 1 feed, he didn't know how many scoops etc, and would stuff around... and then I had a billion bottles to clean, sterilise (it was still the thing to do back then) and whatnot.

    I dunno, I think feeding will always be my domain as a mother, regardless of the method I choose. If I want fairer division of labour, I'd put DP on other duties.

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    Default Re: Does feeding method really impact on division of labour?

    I did all the labour around the house while breast feeding. I would only get a break about once a day and that was when I gave dp a bottle of breast milk and my break was doing the dishes or having a shower while cleaning the shower.

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    Default Re: Does feeding method really impact on division of labour?

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    Ouch. Unfair how after a caesar you get the really good drugs but everybody else really has to suffer.
    I got panadol and ibuprofen after my Caesar, real good drugs.

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    I guess I'm fortunate that breastfeeding has never really been time consuming for me, if I was stuck feeding the baby and something needed doing and hubby was home he would do it, if he wasn't home it waited. Hubby never scrubbed the toilets before I breastfed so no idea why he would do it after lol! I don't really care tbh he works 12hr shifts away half the time, my work load at home is less than that and when he is home we do about 50:50 just in different departments. He has always done other care routines (it's a myth that they need to feed the baby a bottle to bond!) he showers them, changes them, dresses them, burps them, plays with them while he is doing that I will do cleaning/cooking whatever, sometimes he does it while I sit on my bum

    Not sure if that answers the question. I guess even if I did FF I would be doing 75% of the feeds, 100% when he is away and 50% when he is home, I only loose/gain 25% by breastfeeding.

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    Default Re: Does feeding method really impact on division of labour?

    Interesting question OP...my partner and I have had this conversation a number of times and wouldn't you know it, we disagree!


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    I think that when I moved from BF to FF, we were able to share things a bit more.

    When FF, we shared the feeds when we were both home, but DH did the 'dream feed'. We were lucky, in that DD slept through the night from very early on (4-6 weeks). So she'd go to bed at 5pm, I'd go to bed around 9pm, DH (who naturally goes to bed later than me) would give her a 'dream feed' at around 11pm - for which she wouldn't wake, and then she'd wake, or we'd wake her at 6am.

    If she ever stirred in the night then DH would go to her, as he found that he could go straight back to sleep afterwards, whereas I would stay awake for hours after getting up in the night. So he was happy to do them.

    So, when I was BF it had to be me who got up in the night, or did late night feeds - for obvious reasons. But when FF, DH did the late feed, and got up in the night.

    FF also meant that we could take it in turns to have sleep-ins at the weekend.

    Everything else we split 50/50 anyway, so it didn't make a difference to anything BUT the feeding.

    I'm going to try to BF again next time and DH has admitted that a part of him feels a bit sad about it, as he loved the time he spent feeding DD.

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    Default Does feeding method really impact on division of labour?

    I don't consider breast feeding to be labour, labour is what he does while I am propped up on the couch with my boobs out! Lol even during this pregnancy he has done more than me simply because I've been too sick to function but we're fine with it!


 

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