THis is an issue with the artificial western division of labour / capitalism in which people go out to structured workplaces to sell their labour.
IN most places in the world, where your livelihood is more incorporated into yoru life, it's not an issue.
I am breastfeeding right now and working.
I'm in my structured workplace enjoying the aircon and expressing. Really cannot fathom how anyone gets any work done with children crawling all over the keyboard. But I guess in the non Western world it wouldn't just be me and the little terrors, eh?
Chew the Mintie (11-01-2013)
I'd have to agree with you and chew the mintie - it's not necessarily about breastfeeding itself, but the unequal divisions of labour. Most of the babies being fed through bottles I see out and about, and certainly true of the mothers I know, are being fed by their mother anyway.
I would hope that if I had a caesarian or breastfed for hours on end that I would not be lumped with the same amount of housework I do now.
I find it balances out as during that early period of intense feeding, I lie around and watch dvds while I direct my partner to do other things.
It's almost like a 6 week holiday in bed, albeit sleep deprived.
I wasn't successful at establishing BF with DS so I expressed what I could. It was extremely time consuming as all my time was taken up with expressing, bottle washing etc. DF is a very supportive partner and assisted with domestic chores as needed.
DD fed around the clock for the first 3 to 4 months of her life (day and night) and I also had a severe PPH when she was born. The visiting MW told me that my job was to feed the baby and sleep and his job was to do everything else including all nappy changes, I wasn't even supposed to walk with the baby in case I fainted. Once again DF stepped in, no questions asked, and did what was required.
Whilst I am pondering this question I am wondering if there is an underlying assumption that men are reluctant to step up when a new baby arrives and support the mother by making sure the house is running as smoothly as possible and the mother is getting the support she needs. Whilst I'm sure this is the case in many circumstances I don't think it should be considered the 'norm' or a benchmark. How about we assume that there is an equal division of labour and new fathers support the mothers and anything that deviates from that is considered an irregularity?
I agree. SPC I was too afraid to read the link as I feared it would be depressing or enraging.
Pregnancy means women can't (or shouldn't) do as much. So does breastfeeding. These are biological realities. Actually, it doesn't mean women can't (or shouldn't) do as much, it means women are diverting energies elsewhere (ie to growing a baby, whether it be via pregnancy or breastfeeding).
I think there's a natural rhythm to these things if people will just allow it...
My partner has mild newborn breastfeeding envy as he wanted to lie around at watch dvds as well, but had to wrangle our out-of-control 4yo instead.
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