Thanks ladies that first night when he cried for an hour I was wondering what I was do and if I was doing the right thing feel so much more relaxed now and he seems much happier through the day for the good sleep though he did decide that 3:30 was a good time to be up this morning but I think that may be teeth or something as he went to sleep only to wake 20 mins later and back to sleep and woke again but he slept through until then so good 7.5 hr block
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Never thought I'd try CC, but it's crunch time- DD needs to learn to self settle, for my sanity and hers; she has 15-30 minute day naps after I've rocked her to sleep in my arms (should be much longer) and will only sleep in her cot at night after she's fallen alseep in our bed- and then it's only for an hour or so until she wakes, realises where she is and cries until I bring her back into my bed. She's now almost 11 months old and we can't continue like this- DH and I aren't getting any sleep with her in with us
Anyway, after researching CC, I've noticed that the advice given is to leave the room when letting them cry- but the problem is, DD still shares our room. Can it still work if we are in the same room overnight when she wakes? We can leave the room earlier in the evening, but at 2am I can't be in and out of my own room... Can it still work if I'm lying metres away from her? It'll be dark so she wont see us.. (we have no spare bedroom for her, until we move) don't know what to do, I hate having to even consider this, but I see no other way... am hoping after a few days-1 week she'll have it worked out and we can all get into a normal and happy routine.
Not even sure how I'll go, I'm full of guilt an heartbroken when I hear her cry.. tried it tonight and ended up bringing her into my bed as it was too much I moved her into her cot once she had fallen asleep.
This is tough
You can only give it a go! I followed Dr Christopher greens method, where u leave them cry for 5 mins to start off with then go in, pick them up for a quick cuddle or just reassure them and then put them back down and leave immediately and definitely. Then increase the time you let them cry by 2 mins (so wait 7 mins before u go in) and repeat. I always spoke lovingly to ds and quietly when I went in its hard but u have to be really strict and consistant if your not consistent it wont work and if u go to re try it it will take longer. They are crying because u left them but by coming back in at intervals or in your case letting her know u are still there in intervals will reassure them u haven't left them forever and u still keep coming back just not cuddling them, they then work out its not worth it and go to sleep. The first time you do it will be the longest and hardest but its surprising how quickly they settle. I wouldn't go our of your room at night just leave her in the cot, quick cuddle when u have timed it and back down and leave her until the next time. I suggest some ear plugs for you and hubby though especially being in the same room. Its horrible but I was at my wits end with ds and he is now sleeping through the night and even transitioned to a big boy bed as I'm due with #2 in 8 weeks good luck hun I hope u can work through it and find a solution
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