DS is now 11 weeks old and has sleep issues.
He generally wakes for the day at 7am (however lately it can be anywhere from 6am onwards). He then will only sleep for 30 minutes at a time throughout the day.
He is purely breastfed and feeds anywhere from 2.5 -4 hours during the day depending on sleep. We do the eat/play/sleep "routine". So he wakes has a feed and then was showing signs of being tired only an hour after waking (including feed). So I change nappy if needed, put him in his love to dream swaddle cuddle to calm then put him in his cot awake and leave room. We have been doing this since around 6 weeks and he was really good at putting himself to sleep without real crying, just wingy cries and would take anywhere from 5-15 mins to go to sleep. But then 40 minutes later he was awake again.
I was originally trying to do SOS however it wasn't working for us so I gave up on it but according to it DS age should be awake for 2 hours and that if they are going down too early they may be tired enough to nap but not sleep. So I started trying to stretch him to 1.5-2 hours depending on how tired he was acting. He was going to sleep a lot quicker but it didn't affect how long he slept for.
I previously tried to get him to settle again after waking by patting in the cot, cuddling, shushing etc. but he would just be crying and squirming and fighting me for the next hour by which time I figured he was now getting hungry, I was in tears so I gave up and fed him and started the process again.
However about a week ago I was in tears at every sleep time and just not coping so I gave up trying to make him sleep during the day as he generally sleeps from 7-7 with only one to two waking for feeds and everyone was telling me you can't expect him to sleep all the time.
This too is not working as by mid afternoon he is just so tired. He is now taking a lot longer to settle himself to sleep during the day and at 7pm he has been terrible. Not just wingy crying but works himself up to the point we are cuddling him pretty much to sleep. Can take anywhere up to an hour to get him to sleep because he is so overtired.
During the night he wakes for feed, feeds and goes back to sleep. I put him back in his cot and he either stays asleep or opens his eyes and wriggles for a few seconds to get comfortable and then is asleep for 4 or more hours. I am generally only out of bed for half an hour each time.
He doesn't have a dummy. He will take one as I have tried it on occasion and it does help calm him so he doesn't cry himself to sleep but he then drops it when dozing off and wakes himself up so I don't want to use it while he can't pick it back up himself as I don't want it interfere with his sleeping during the night.
This all started around 6-8 weeks around the time "they wake up" and I was told it was normal. Well at this point it doesn't feel normal but I understand it might be but it doesn't help us. DS is not happy most of the day he is grizzly so clearly needs to sleep more.
So if you have read this far as I have realised this has turned into a massive post sorry, I am looking for suggestions on how to handle this issue or causes for it.
Oh most of the time if I take him out of his room I can get him to go back to sleep in my arms and then out him beside me on my bed but still in my arm and he can sleep for up to two hours in total but I don't do this all the time and I don't want him to get used to sleeping in my arms either.
Any help would be greatly appreciated as I am not currently enjoying motherhood and I feel guilty about feeling this way.