Happy New Year! Hope you all had a nice break and had your partners home.
My hubby started a FIFO job last October and its a tough roster, 4 weeks on, 1 week off. Well last night we had our first fight and I just feel like crap about it, its so much harder to cope with when you cant see them in person!
We are expecting our first baby in March and we have been trying to work out when he will come home for the birth. I dont want him coming home before I go into labour cause I could over a week or two after my due date and dont want him to be home for too long while im pregnant, I would prefer he be home longer when bubs has arrived.
So his boss has advsied the best thing to do it, drive himself to his swing in march (7 hour drive), so that when he gets the call from me, he can just leave straight away and get home.
I have a few concerns about this, i'am worried that 7 hours will be too long and I could possibly have the baby. Its unlikely with my first, but it could happen. This is our first and only child we are planning to have and I do not want him missing the birth. My mum is a support person too, so she only lives 10 mins away and she we will be with me, but its not the same as having my hubby there. Secondly, im worried about him driving home on his own (at god knows what time of the day/night), in a potentially frantic state (depending on how quickly my labour is progressing). I know he is a good driver, but I am just worried about he will be emotionally and lack of concentration on the road etc... I dont need to be in labour and worrying about him getting home safely too. Our other options are flying home, but he is in north qld, so he might not be able to get a flight straight away. A mate of his at site, offered to take a few days off and drive him home when I go into labour, and this would be my preferred option but hubby doesnt want him doing that as they work on the same crew etc...
He got so ****ed off at me last night when I kept trying to think of other options and when I voiced my concern about him driving home. I get he just wants the freedom to be able to leave and have a car at site, but it does worry me.
Am I overeacting??? He pretty much decided that this is what he is doing and there is no better option and we left it at that.
Anyone else been in this situation?
Sorry for the novel!!!!